In the previous episode we had witnessed Vidura slamming King Dhirdiraashtra on a very important point. He says that if we excessively love someone or something, whatever negative aspects that the person or thing would have, would go unnoticed! However on the contrary, if we excessively hate someone or something so badly, whatever positive aspects that the person or thing would possess, would go completely unnoticed! This is the same case here with King Dhirdiraashtra. Since he has excessive love and attachment towards his son Duryodhana, whatever crooked actions he performs doesn’t matter to him at all! This is what irks Vidura to the core! He slams King Dhirdiraashtra for such an ignorant attitude and urges him to mend his ways. On the other hand, King Dhirdiraashtra is totally ignorant and unable to see the “Dharma” amidst the Paandavas just because he hates them to the core. He’s unable to digest the fact that the Paandavas were far better than his sons and that, he has to duly split the kingdom equally to both the camps. Rather, King Dhirdiraashtra wants only his son Duryodhana to be his next successor, come what may!
This is exactly where we entangle ourselves in today’s world too – For instance, if our own son or daughter commits a mistake or a crime, how many of us, parents would be able to come forward and accept the mistake of the children? Rather, what would we do? Majority of the time we would only try and defend our son or daughter, irrespective of whatever might be the crime, isn’t it? When a person is booked for criminal conspiracy and is dragged into the court, what will the mother of this person do? She would only run into the court premises and defend her son by saying, “Sir! My son is innocent! He hasn’t done any mistake! Please spare my son! Please do the investigation in the proper way and release my son!” How many times have we seen such emotional dialogues in movies?
Hence the underlying point here is that, if we love someone, we would dare not go against him/her, however bad this person might be! This is exactly where King Dhirdiraashtra is trapped too here – However bad Duryodhana might be, King Dhirdiraashtra is unable to accept the fact that Duryodhana is unfit to succeed him to the throne! This is what Vidura is trying to emphasize and re-emphasize to King Dhirdiraasntra through various means. Here in this context we see that Vidura is fuming in anger to make King Dhirdiraashtra understand his folly! Irrespective of whatever “Adharma” Duryodhana did – For instance, playing the illegal gambling game amidst the entire courtroom, insulting Draupati in public by stripping her off, sending the Paandavas to an inhumane exile, etc. King Dhirdiraashtra still backs him up! This is the major problem here.
Thus the lesson from this context to all of us is that, even if we do not like someone, we should try to learn the positives from him/her. I know it is difficult, but we need to give it a try. We should not repeat the mistake what King Dhirdiraashtra has done here! Hence, instead of rejecting people altogether just because we do not like them, why don’t we start looking at the positives of all people? This would first of all reduce the enmity between us and that person. Secondly, the more we look into the positives of people around, we would learn a lot of things in life. Indirectly we are trying to be constructive in our approach towards people. This would also avoid the risk of isolating ourselves. Thus for all these above reasons, we should strive to look into the positives amongst all people with whom we are friends and/or enemies. Just because we like someone, we should not go too much behind that person for anything and everything. Similarly, just because we do not like someone, we should also not reject that person completely for anything and everything. A balance is always an important virtue that all of us should adopt while dealing with different kinds of people.
This is extremely important in the corporate too. In the modern day we see innumerable rivalries between various corporate houses, business tycoons and also amongst employees of different organizations. Thus rather than looking only at the rival part, why don’t we focus on “Collaborative working”? It would be advantageous to all of us isn’t it? Rather than looking at other companies as mere competitors, why don’t we look at them as collaborators wherever and however possible? For instance if we look at the airline sector we can interestingly find something called “Codeshare Agreements” and “Interline Agreements” between two or more airline companies across the world. Although on paper they might be competitors, this collaborative effort between the airline companies enables hassle-free movement of passengers from one part of the world to the other. Just like this codeshare agreement, why don’t we have such codeshare agreements for our lives too? Won’t our lives transform completely in the positive direction with such agreements?
Hence for today, let us think about this important point and let us try to look at the positives in each and every human being. Ultimately all of us are Bhagawan’s creations and our “Aatmans” are all integrated and well-knit to form a divine network! The earlier we realize this, the better it is for us! We shall wait till the next episode to witness Vidura’s next important point of discussion in the 39’th Adhyaaya. Stay tuned! 🙂