Episode # 85 – Primary purpose behind a marriage as per our “Sanaathana Dharma” – An important message!!!


The previous episode was an important one wherein we had seen the crux of our Indian Sanaathana Dharma. We had seen six important pillars of Dharma that are nothing but “Sathyam”, “Dhaanam”, “Anaalasyam”, “Anasuyaa”, “Kshamaa” and “Dhruthihi”. Thus Vidura explained in detail that these six pillars of Dharma would ensure that we live in peace of mind with the complete grace of Bhagawan.

Now moving on further, Vidura explains the next six. He explains here that these following six aspects in life would give us the ultimate comfort and happiness! Now as I’m going to explain these six aspects, all of us would really feel that “comfort” and “Happiness”! 🙂 What are they? Vidura explains thus,

“Arthaagamaha nithyamaarogithaa priyaacha bhaarya priya vaadhineeccha!

Vaschascha puthraha artha kaareescha vidyaa!!”

 Here Vidura explains the six aspects one by one:

“Arthaagamah” – If we get an uninterrupted income of money without any hassles! Every morning while we wake up from bed, if someone is ready to give us Rs. 20,000, who wouldn’t be happy in life? J Thus the first aspect that would give us immense happiness and comfort is “Arthaagamaha” or “Uninterrupted source of income.

“Nithyamaarogithaa” – If we are able to lead a life without visiting a doctor (medical practitioner) even once, what more comfort do we need? In the present day, why do we face so much of insecurity and fear all throughout our lives? It is because of the fear of falling sick and getting admitted in the hospital! It would of course be a pain both physically and financially. Now, if we’re able to lead a healthy life without falling sick, this would of course be the best “boon” that we could obtain from Bhagawan! Hence, this forms the second aspect that gives happiness and comfort.

“Priyaacha bhaarya” – If we are having a wife who is amicable and understandable to our way of life and living, this would perhaps be one of the most important aspect that would give us the ultimate satisfaction in our lives. Thus here comes the important roles for the husband and wife – The most important aspect of this beautiful relationship is to understand each other and sacrificing! The more we sacrifice and let go of small issues, the more pleasure we derive out of the relationship. As per our “Sanaathana Dharma” the main purpose of getting into a marriage is to lead a path together to uphold and protect “Dharma”. In other words, both the husband and wife should strive together towards performing good deeds and follow the principles of “Dharma” together by complementing each other’s actions. This is where in the Ramayana we’ve seen that when King Janaka marries his daughter Sita to Lord Rama he says thus,

“Iyam sitaa mama suthaa saha dharma chareethava!

Pratheecha yenaam bhadramthe paani grunheeshva paaninaa!”

In this famous sloka King Janaka asserts to Rama that his daughter Sita is a girl who knows all the Dharma and will walk with Rama in the path of Dharma at any instance (“Saha Dharma Chareethava”).  

Here King Janaka indirectly says one more important aspect – If Rama walks the path of Dharma, Sita would follow him in that. Whereas, if at any point of time Rama deviates from the path of Dharma, Sita would not follow him! Rather, she would advise him in a pleasing manner and correct him back to the path of Dharma! This is an extremely important characteristic that every woman should have – She should be able to convince her husband in a pleasing way and make sure that he doesn’t deviate from the path of Dharma. This is what Vidura explains here by the term “Priya Vadineecha”. Thus it is not enough if the wife (Bhaarya) is amicable and understanding. The wife should also be able to talk in a pleasing manner so that it would be effective enough for both the husband and her to follow Dharma.

“Vaschascha puthra” – Of course if we are lucky enough to have children who are willing to follow our words and advice, what more happiness are we going to gain in this world? In the modern day, this is one aspect that lacks at almost every home! Children want to be “independent” of everybody and do not like it when parents advise them on certain aspects! Hence, if we are lucky enough to have children who would obey our words just like how Lord Rama did for his father, King Dasharata, it is the biggest happiness that we can gain in this world! Again in the Ramayana project, we’ve seen how King Dasharata appreciates Lord Rama while he was breathing his last – Rama went to the forest on exile, just for that one purpose of honoring his father’s words, for which, King Dasharata laments, “Oh Rama! Even if I take a thousand births in the future, I would want you as my son in each and every birth!” Such is the impeccable character of Lord Rama and is thus a role model for all of us to follow!

“Artha kaareescha vidya”If we get a job in line with the qualifications we have, this would also give us immense satisfaction, isn’t it? This is also one thing that lacks today in many cases – We get educated with any stream in Engineering such as Electrical, Electronics, Civil, etc. and however all of us invariably land up into jobs pertaining to Information Technology (IT). Although we might be earning considerable amount of income, somewhere down the line we might feel bad that our job is not worth of what we’ve studied and our knowledge is going wasted without being put into optimal application in the job that we do! Hence, if we are able to get a job in line with the stream of our education, it is the best aspect to have in life and this would give us the ultimate professional satisfaction.

Thus for today let us ponder over these six aspects in life that give us the ultimate happiness and satisfaction. We shall wait till the next episode to find out what Vidura is going to explain next. Stay tuned! 🙂

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at International School of Business & Media, Pune, India. A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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