Episode # 73 – Four important categories of people to avoid – Vidura’s beautiful explanation!!!

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In the previous episode we had witnessed the second part of the discussion on why to accept people unconditionally. We witnessed a few modern day scenarios as to why this quality is extremely important for being a successful and a prolific leader. More than being a successful leader, this characteristic is important from a normal human being’s perspective as well. The more we forgive and let go, the more respect we would gain. But of course that doesn’t mean that we let others do mistakes and get away. We should warn them, educate them and giving them feedbacks for improvement. In other words, constructive criticism is always welcome. However, the limit should be here – We should not go beyond this and start abusing others for their mistakes. We should make sure that we do not get into this trap and should strive to accept people’s wholehearted apologies and move on further.

Now moving on, so far for the past few slokas we’ve been seeing Vidura’s explanation of “trios” – That is, three elements in each sloka. Now from this sloka we’re going to see four elements in each sloka. Let’s now look at the “first four”. Here he is going to tell us that we should not mingle and move with four categories of people. Who are they?

“Chathvaari raagnyaath mahaabalena varjyaanyaahuhu pandithasthaani vidyaath!

Alpah pragnyessaha manthram na kuryaath na dheerga soothraihi abhasaihi chaaranaischa!!”

Thus from the above sloka, Vidura explains that we should not move with four categories of people – First one is Alpah pragnayihi”This means, we should not associate ourselves with a person who is a “dumb-head” or “brainless”! Thus we should realize here that our association and friendship should be with people who are intelligent, smart and informative. This would help us to grow better in our lives. Rather, if we happen to be friends with those who are useless and stupid’s, we would also end up becoming stupids like them! Hence we need to be extremely careful while choosing our companions. We’ve already discussed a glimpse of this topic during the discussion on “Friendship vs. “Opportunism” a few episodes back. Readers may recollect that discussion a little bit wherein I’ve said that we are judged based on the companions with whom we associate ourselves. Thus the message from this portion of today’s episode is that, we need to careful not to associate ourselves with those people who are completely brainless and stupids.

The next one is “Dheerga soothraihi” – This means, a person who is a “procrastinator” of things! We should never have any kind of association with people who keep postponing things for some silly reason. If we happened to be with these kinds of people, we would eventually become lazy and might fail to finish our tasks on time! If a task is given to us, we need to stick to the time of completion along with the quality with which our output is generated. This is extremely important in today’s professional setup wherein the focus is on completing tasks in a reduced time frame, but without compromising on the quality. In such scenarios, if we happen to associate ourselves with those people who are “procrastinators”, we would end up being like them and would start postponing our works without any valid reason! This would result in many problems both for us as well as for the organization with which we work. Hence, procrastinators should be avoided completely!

The third one is Abhasaihi” – We might have come across few people who are “last-minute” cases. In other words, they are always in some kind of tension all the time and eventually rush up with their tasks, finally ending up messing the whole thing! Such people are also dangerous and we should keep away from these kinds of people as well. This is what we call “Tension-party”. If we happen to associate with these kinds of people, we would have to become unwantedly tensed and would have to take up huge pressure of completing things rather too quickly. Of course, completing tasks quickly is required (as discussed above), but too quick a completion might rather result in compromise on quality! We should note that if the output lacks the requisite quality, the entire purpose of undertaking the task becomes irrelevant and useless. Hence we should make sure that we do not get into an association with such people who are always in “tension” mode! This would eventually spoil our way of working as well!

The fourth one is “Chaaranaischa” – This is a peculiar category of people who just try to act “smart” by not performing any tasks, but keep praising others and making them do the additional work! Some people might give thousands of promises by saying “I shall do this! I shall do that!” but when it comes to converting those promises into actions, these people would run away! Such people are also extremely dangerous in terms of trust and it is always better to keep away from these kinds of people as well! Now this is what I call “Political talks”. Just like how politicians talk before elections are being held – “If I get elected, I shall fulfill all promises that I give for my people!” After the election is over and for the next five years, this fellow would be absconding! So what happens to all the promises that he/she had given to his electorate? It’s all in vain! Thus we should realize that we should not associate ourselves with people who “talk more and work less”. Not only in the political arena – We would be able to see such people in every sphere of life! We can come across such people even in corporate organizations wherein people in the top management might promise a lot but execute only a little! Trusting such people is extremely dangerous and it is better not to fall into their gimmicks!

Thus for today let us introspect about these four categories of people and lets strive to stay away from them in future! We shall discuss the “second four” in the next episode! Stay tuned! 🙂

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at Amrita Vishwa Vidyapeetham in Kerala, India. A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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