Episode # 74 – Four important people to have at home – Vidura explains!!!

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In the previous episode we had began witnessing Vidura’s explanation of groups of four aspects packed inside each sloka. In that way, we had witnessed the first such sloka yesterday wherein Vidura talks about four categories of people whom we should totally avoid in our life – The person who is absolutely senseless or brainless, the person who is a procrastinator of tasks unwantedly due to sheer laziness, the person who are tensed at all times and make others tensed as well and finally the person who acts smart by talking juicy words but scores a zero in actions! Thus Vidura explains that such people should never fall into our close association at any point of time and we need to keep away from them as much as possible.

Now moving further, Vidura is going to talk about the next four items. What are they and how are they relevant to today’s scenario? Let’s have a look!

“Chathvaari tetaatha grihe vasantu! Shriyaabhi jushtasya grihecha dharma!!

In this sloka, Vidura is going to explain four important categories of people whom one should always keep with us at his/her home, if he/she is a married person. Now that many of us are living in congested cities and towns and in relatively smaller apartments I do not know if we can accommodate four people at our home today! 🙂 However, we can atleast keep these four people in our hearts and minds. Now who are these four people? Vidura continues thus:

Vriddhaha nyaathir avasannaha kuleenaha sadaa daridraha bhagineecha anapathyaa!!”

Here Vidura explains the four categories of people. The first category is Vriddhaha nyaathi”This means a senior person in our family who is aged and experienced. These senior people might be in the form of our parents or any of our close relatives like our uncle, aunt, etc. Why should we have such senior people at our home? It is only from these people, we can understand what are our family traditions, our family “Dharma”, how do perform all the important spiritual practices at home, how to perform other important duties like “Shraadha”, etc. Moreover, we can also have the opportunity to learn from their life experiences and shall try to follow their valuable advice on important things in life. They can also act as our consultants wherein we can seek their suggestions before taking important decisions at our home for the betterment of our families. Thus in a nutshell, experienced senior people at home would always serve as an important guide for our overall development of us as well as our family.

The second category is Avasannaha kuleenaha”He is a person who was born and brought up in a high clan, well educated and a widely respected individual. When we have such people with us at home, they can give their expert opinions on critical issues that we might face at home due to various circumstances and situations. Hence, such people are also very important to have at home.

The third category is Sadaa daridraha”He is a close friend of ours who might be poor and without much wealth under his possession. If we have such people at our place, there might be two purposes that get fulfilled – One is that we would indirectly doing something good to a person who is in dire need of help. The other is that, if such people are there at our place, they can share their real-life experiences (sufferings mostly) that would be excellent lessons for us. For instance, if that person had lost all his money and property through some bad ways and means and he is repenting for the same, we can learn from such people that we should be careful with our wealth and money by refraining from going into such illicit ways and means. Such life experiences are always required for our personal development. Hence, it is good to have a poor or a needy close friend along with us, who can advise us on the do’s and don’ts in our everyday life.

The final category is Bhagineecha anapathyaa”Here Vidura explains about an important person. He says that we should always have with us, our own sister who does not have a child. We might wonder why is Vidura talking about such a category. According to Vidura, she is the person who would faithfully and honestly safeguard our property and wealth! Perhaps if she had a son or a daughter in her life, maybe it would create problems! 🙂 Let’s not get into that debate for the time being. However, what Vidura means here is that, this person should be our own blood-related sister, who is childless and this person should always be with us at our home.

Thus, if the above-mentioned four categories of people are at our place, it would definitely bring goodness to us and our family. So for today let us ponder over this important sloka and these four categories of people. Of course as I mentioned before, space might be a big constraint for many of us at home, as we live in apartments and high rise buildings in the today’s scenario. However, if some readers feel that they have ample space in their homes, definitely we can think of having these four people with us, which would be of good to us. For those readers who have space constraints, atleast let us have these people in our hearts and minds, so as to try and compensate their physical absence! We shall wait till the next episode to explore the next four aspects that Vidura explains! Stay tuned! 🙂

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at Amrita Vishwa Vidyapeetham in Kerala, India. A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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