Episode #44 – Why should we “control” our anger??? Vidura’s “eye-opener” message!!!

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In the previous episode we had witnessed two important attributes of a “Mooda” as explained by Vidura. The first one was fairly straightforward and needed no much explanation, wherein Vidura explans that a “Mooda” is a person who unwantedly “pokes” his/her nose into other people’s lives and gossips about it. This is one phenomenon that we regularly see every passing day and we should take care to avoid such things in our day-to-day lives. The second attribute was another major one wherein Vidura explains that a “Mooda” is a person who only keeps seeing the faults done by others and not those done by him or her. In other words, instead of correcting our own mistakes, a “Mooda” keeps pinpointing only at the mistakes of others. This is also one phenomenon and a menace in today’s society. How much of time do we waste in all these kinds of activities? Thus the message from these two attributes is that we should develop a “don’t care” attitude towards whatever others do and say. We should remember that thousand people would do and say thousand things and it is not necessary that we give into each and every person around us. We have our own individuality and we should stick to that, analyze ourselves, rectify our faults and move on.

Thus moving on further, in today’s episode let us look into the next attribute of a “Mooda” as explained by Vidura.

“Yasya krubhyath thaneeshaanaha sa cha moodamatho naraha!”

 Here Vidura explains that a person is considered to be a “Mooda” if he gets angry despite knowing the fact that he is incapable.

Now who is an “incapable” person? A person is considered to be incapable if he/she lacks strength (“Shakthi”) – The strength might be either or both physical and mental strength. For instance if people like us (who are relatively weak in physical strength) have to get angry on a person who is a kick boxer, what would happen? That kick boxer would kick us out of this world forever! 🙂 Thus we should understand that we should exhibit our anger only at places where it is extremely necessary and can create an impact. Rather, if we’ve to exhibit our anger at the wrong place and towards the wrong person, we need to be ready to get beaten up and kicked right royally! 🙂

How relevant is this phenomenon to the modern day scenario too! We describe “Anger” as “Krodha”, which is one of the important characteristics of a human being. Why do we get angry? We get angry when our expectations doesn’t get fulfilled and when somebody acts as a “stumbling block” and prevent us from achieving what we desire. This definition can hold good for any situation in life – Be it at home, office, career growth, etc.

Why do many of us get frustrated and stressed a lot with our professional lives? When we enter into an organization, we enter inside with extremely high expectations of an excellent career prospect. However as days, months, years pass by, gradually we would begin to realize that this organization and this particular job is not leading us anywhere! Eventually, we start to crib that this job and this organization doesn’t have any future for us! Thus, over a period of time we pick up a fight with our immediate boss and it ends up in a fierce war of words. Naturally as a consequence, our boss would escalate our concerns in the wrong way to the top management and finally our reputation gets spoilt and our image gets tarnished! 

 This is exactly where Vidura explains to us that a person is a “Mooda” when he shows his anger at the wrong place and when he is incapable. In this context, incapability is a situation wherein we do not have the designated power or authority to make an impact in the organization, and knowing this very well we still get frustrated and get into unwanted quarrels and war of words. Thus, care should be taken in a way that such things should be avoided in the organization. We should realize that at the end of the day, our reputation is at stake. There is hectic competition outside – We should first try to make our position strong and sustainable before we take on others. Else if we are thrown out of the organization, it is extremely difficult to get another job, given the challenges faced in the current day job market.

Thus we see here that Vidura’s important explanation on “Anger” is extremely applicable in our day-to-day life and we should take this as an eye-opener to introspect within ourselves.

With this, we come to the end of the various characteristics of a “Mooda” as explained by Vidura. In the next episode we are going to commence another interesting discussion wherein Vidura is going to explain some simple but extremely important “Mathematics” for life. What is that? Let’s stay tuned eagerly till tomorrow to find out! 🙂

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at Amrita Vishwa Vidyapeetham in Kerala, India. A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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