Episode # 43 – “Unwanted gossiping” – A menace in the modern day society!!!


In the previous episode we had witnessed a very important discussion as to why is the “Pithru-Shraadha” being performed. We witnessed that this special offering is done when our parents depart from this earth to Vaikunta (Heaven). As a son, this is our bound duty to perform all the rituals included in the “Pithru-Shraadha” and is mandatory. Thus Vidura explains here that a person who fails to perform this important “Pithru-Shraadha” for his departed parents is a “Mooda”.

In the western world too, we can see the prominence of this kind – We have something called “Mother’s day”, “Father’s day”, etc. isn’t it? Why is it so? It is on this day that we remember the innumerable sacrifices made by our parents to bring us up in life. This is exactly what is prescribed in our “Sanaathana Dharma” as well – The only difference here is the format in which the day is remembered. Our “Sanaathana Dharma” lays emphasis on the day and the time at which our parents (both mother and father) depart to Vaikunta (Heaven) and it is on this day every year we need to specially remember them with our “Pithru-Shraadha”. Hence the message here is that, we should never miss out on these important duties of a human being born in this earth. Through this message, we can also witness the importance that our “Sanaathana Dharma” gives to our parents. In our Bhaarata Desha (India), many of us have the practice of prostrating and worshipping our parents every day before going out to work. This is an extremely noble practice that we have and this signifies the amount of respect one should have for his/her parents. Thus, a “Mooda” is a person who does not realize all this significance and fails in his duties towards parents.

Now moving on to the next important attribute of a “Mooda”, Vidura explains the following:

“Anaahoothaha pravishathi apprishtaha bahubhaashathe!!”

Here, Vidura explains that a person, who enters another person’s house when he/she is not invited, is a “Mooda”. This is a classic case of the modern day terminology of “intruding into others’ privacy”. This has become a big nuisance in our society nowadays. It is an irony today that our neighbours know more of our personal matters that we discuss with our parents or spouse or children. This means that we’ve started to intrude so much into other people’s private space and are disturbing them in many ways. Such things are to be avoided. Thus Vidura explains here that the person who pokes his/her nose unwantedly into others’ matters, waste others’ time in unwanted gossips, going to others’ homes at a time when it is not desired, is a “Mooda”.

Now moving on to the next attribute, Vidura explains the following:

“Param kshipethi doshena varthamaanaha svayam tathaa!!”

 Here comes an extremely important attribute of a “Mooda”. Here Vidura explains that a person, who always looks into the fault of others, rather than looking into his or her own faults, is a “Mooda”!! How important is this attribute in today’s world! In fact, Yama-Dharma-Raaja claims that only three people in this world has the right to look into other’s mistakes and wrongdoings – One is Bhagawan Vishnu, second is Goddess Mahalakshmi (The Consortium of Bhagawan Vishnu) and finally, Yama-Dharma-Raaja himself, since he is appointed for this very purpose of looking into the sins of others. However in today’s world, except for these three people, all the others have developed the habit of looking into others’ wrongdoings and faults. 🙂

Some people have the habit of gossiping about someone or the other every passing day. If they do not do that, they wouldn’t get a peaceful sleep at night! Vidura says, such people fall under the “Mooda” category! 🙂 Thus the message from the above two attributes put together is that, we should take a conscious step forward so as to avoid unnecessary gossiping about others. In fact if we have to sit and plan our day-to-day work, we would be surprised that 24 hours in a day is not sufficient for us to complete all of them. In this situation, where is the time for us to talk about others? Hence, we should realize that by unwanted gossips, we are only wasting our precious time, which could be put to constructive usage otherwise.

Thus let us introspect on ourselves today based on this important message. Let us make a conscious effort to cut down on unwanted gossips and use that time for doing something productive. We shall wait till the next episode to discuss the next attribute of a Mooda. Stay tuned! 🙂

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at International School of Business & Media, Pune, India. A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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