Episode # 203 – “AATMA-VIMARSHANA” – Correct yourself before correcting others!!!

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In the previous episode, we had witnessed the significance of “Mauna” or “Silence” in our present day scenario. We had witnessed it in two different dimensions yesterday in terms of not getting trapped up into the net of strangers by disclosing our intricate personal details, and in terms of controlling our ego to become successful leaders. Both of these dimensions are of paramount importance to our modern-day life and we should make it a point to follow Sage Sukhaachaarya’s important advice here.

For instance, if we’ve to be on a “Mauna-Vratha” for one day in a week or a month, how many of us would be ready to do it? Many a times, we would fail in our attempt, even if we undertake one! 🙂 We might think within ourselves thus, “Oh! If I keep silent for a day in a week, how will things at home and office run? Won’t my family members or my colleagues at work feel unhappy and lonely, just because I’m silent?” The fact would be otherwise in reality – The day when we’re silent, the whole world around us would rejoice! 🙂 Everybody would be at peace if we shut our mouths for a day! This might be funny, but it is the reality, because, if we constantly keep chirping all the time, we are only going to scold someone, or gossip about someone to someone else, etc. There is nothing that is going to be productive out of what we talk! Hence, it is always a good practice to be on a “Mauna-Vratha” atleast for a single day in a week or a month. Let us try practicing it!

Moving on further thus, Sage Sukhaachaarya is going to narrate the next important aspect of Dharma – “Aatma vimarshanam”. Here, Sage Sukhaachaarya drops a huge bombshell – Rather than pinpointing at others every time, why don’t we cleanse and correct ourselves by mending our ways? This is an extremely important point for all of us to ponder. In practical day-to-day life, we might be experts in giving advice, suggestions and solutions for various degrees of problems, sitting at our home’s sofa! But if someone asks us whether would we be able to implement whatever we “suggest” in practicality, most of us would remain silent! This is where our flaw is today. We might be “experts” in pinpointing others’ mistakes and faults, but where are we and what are we? Are we 100% perfect in whatever we do in life? Are we qualified enough to comment on others’ so-called shortcomings or faults? Of course, we can do that. But we need to also remember that we too should mend our ways too in the process. It is not that, everybody is faulty in this world, other than me!

A small funny example to illustrate this point – So far, we’ve been talking about fourteen to fifteen different aspects of “Dharma” as being narrated by Sage Sukhaachaarya to King Parikshit, isn’t it? The moment we start reading through each of these aspects like “Ahimsa”, “Sathyam”, “Maunam”, etc. we would immediately tend to start relating these aspects to some of our known people in the negative way. For instance, if we’re reading about “Controlling our anger”, we would immediately think thus: “Ah! This is a wonderful aspect of “Dharma” which is totally ignored by my elder brother! This is totally applicable for him only! I wish he reads it first and understands it, more than me reading it!” This is where we falter! Just as these aspects of “Dharma” might be important to someone else, we should realize that these aspects are equally or even more important for us to follow as well! When we get such a thought in our mind, we should immediately be able to think within ourselves thus, “Oh! I’m thinking that my brother is a short-tempered guy! What am I then? If he provokes even a little bit, I start fuming on him with great anger! So isn’t this “Dharma” more applicable to me, rather than to him? So why can’t I use this knowledge as an opportunity to correct myself and mend my ways?” This is called “Aatma-Vimarshana”.

Thus, the point here is that, rather than constantly finding faults with others, we should sometimes look at our own back and clear ourselves first. We should make ourselves perfect before commenting on others! Some people have this habit of seeing negativity in anything and everything. For them, whatever good might happen, they would tend to “read between the lines” and find fault even in that. The moment a fault is found, they would immediately start blaming someone for it. This is a very bad habit and we should try and avoid this as much as possible. If we’re getting into this habit, we would risk a situation wherein we would never be able to socialize with anybody in this world. We should understand the fact of this world that no human being can be perfect. All of us have our own limitations and shortcomings and that is in fact the beauty of life! For instance, if I’m so perfect and if I’m able to do everything with 100% perfection, won’t I be equal to Bhagawan Himself? Only Bhagawan can be perfect in all ways! All of us have to live with our own shortcomings and limitations and this is where we as human beings help out each other! Only if we have shortcomings in life, we would be able to reach out to each other as fellow human beings when we are in dire need of something. If everybody is perfect in everything, there is no need to doing “Seva” or “Being tolerant” or any other aspect of “Dharma” at all!

Hence, the important message from today’s episode is that, rather than finding faults with others every time, we should make sure that we correct ourselves and mend our ways first. We should understand that no human being in this world can be an “ideal human being” except for Bhagawan Rama and Mother Sita! In fact, even though we say that Bhagawan Rama was seemingly perfect in whatever He did all through His life, He too had His share of difficulties and sufferings isn’t it? There were times wherein Lakshmana had to step up to cheer His brother Rama and to advise Him to move on with things. Hence, we can see from many instances that even Bhagawan, when He incarnates in this world, cannot be 100% perfect. Although we can view this point as a multi-faceted pack of debates and arguments with the “Karma” theory, the fact remains.

So for today, let us understand the significance of the “Dharma” called “Aatma-Vimarshana” and let us try and implement this in our day-to-day lives as well. We shall wait till the next episode to move on further with Sage Sukhaachaarya’s next narrative. Stay tuned! 😊

 

 

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at Amrita Vishwa Vidyapeetham in Kerala, India. A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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