Episode # 378 – “Peace of mind would reign in when we give up our ego” – Vidura’s important message!!!


In the previous episode, we had witnessed an important discussion on the point, which is considered to be the nucleus of the entire Mahaabhaarata story – When it comes to money, name, fame, property, etc. we automatically tend to become selfish and possessive in nature, and in the process, we forget the path of “Dharma” to do anything and everything to obtain all of the above! If we look at the various instances that are explained by Sage Veda Vyaasa in the Mahabharata text, we can witness this particular point taking shape again and again in different contexts! The entire Mahabharata text talks about how different people at different times exhibited selfish and possessive characteristics that resulted in playing politics, cursing each other and how all of them suffered because of the curses. Ultimately if we explore deeply from all these instances, we can easily find out a latent truth that money, name, fame and property are nothing but poisons that try and kill human beings slowly and gradually.

Not only in the Mahabharata that took place around 5000 years ago, we’re also witnessing the same in today’s world too! As I’ve discussed before too, we are today witnessing heights of unwanted politics that occur within various families today, wherein brothers and sisters within the same house fight with each other for the want of parents’ property. The more pathetic thing here is that, because of our big and fat ego, we’re unable to even forgive and forget the mistakes done by others! Our ego has taken shape so much in such a way that we’re unable to “let go” of many things in life. I’m not talking about the money and property here and that, we should let go of them to have a peaceful life! If I start talking that way, I’m sure I’ll be kicked away by all of them! 😊 However, having said that, there should be some point wherein we should start, isn’t it? If we keep giving space to our ego every time, we’re never going to realize the fact that we’re getting more and more isolated from the world, and nobody would come near us for rescue if we’re getting entangled into any problem in future! By giving room to our ego to develop, we’re digging a huge grave for ourselves and we should realize this fact as we move on in life.

Hence the point here is that, we should somehow develop a strategy within ourselves to keep a check on our ego. Once this ego is taken care of, many things would automatically fall in place. The moment we give up our ego, we would be more open-minded towards our people and gradually our fights with them would reduce. Nowadays the problem is that, we start fighting even for petty things in life, and these fights gradually get transformed into bigger ones for the want of money and property! Such a thing is extremely dangerous for a healthy family life. Rather than giving place to our ego and becoming possessive about ourselves, why can’t we develop a mindset thus, “Oh! Afterall he / she is my brother / sister! If he / she enjoys something in life, isn’t it our enjoyment too?” If we start thinking thus, we would automatically start forgetting the hatred that brews within our family.

The point that I’m trying to make here is that, all families should be united and affectionate and there should be no space for misunderstandings and quarrels within the family. Of course, there might be some odd misunderstandings and communication gaps here and there, but we should move on with them, rather than making these things as huge issues, thus leading to some bitter arguments, fights, etc. If we’re able to get this fundamental point right in our family, all other things like money, name, fame, luxury would start following us, rather than we following them! If we’re happy with what we have and if we can develop that sense of contention within us, peace of mind would automatically start reigning within us and our family!

So for today, let us spare a thought in these lines and let us try and “let go” of unwanted misunderstandings, fights, ego, etc. with our near and dear ones! Afterall they’re our own kith and kin at the end of the day! Why do we want to ruin our happiness as well as theirs, for our ego of reigning our superiority over them? Let’s ponder! We shall wait till tomorrow to witness Vidura’s final few comments as he closes down the Vidura Neeti! Stay tuned! 😊

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at Bharatidhasan Institute of Management (BIM) Trichy, India A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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