Episode # 348 – “Our peace of mind is totally lost if we enter a fight!” – Vidura’s important words of advice!!!


In the previous episode we had witnessed the next important point of Vidura’s advice to King Dhirdiraashtra, which make up the final few important points before he concludes the Vidura Neeti. Here we had clearly witnessed Vidura literally pleading to King Dhirdiraashtra to understand that as a king, he should make everybody live in their world of peace and harmony. He reiterates this point to King Dhirdiraashtra by saying that everybody has their own place in this world, which is an individual’s fundamental right in this world. We have no rights to deny that right to anyone by employing illegal means, just to fulfill our personal wills and wishes and to satisfy our needs. Vidura advises King Dhirdiraashtra also to reconsider his stance with regards to splitting the Hastinapura kingdom, so that both the Kaurava and Paandava camps of brothers can lead a peaceful life henceforth. Excessive and unwanted greed of Duryodhana to somehow abduct the due share of the kingdom to the Paandavas, is only going to lead him and his Kaurava clan to mass destruction.

This is of course an important message not only to King Dhirdiraashtra and Duryodhana, but also for all of us. The moment we become greedy for more, we start forgetting lot of things in life. We forget our relationship factor with others most importantly than anything else in life – Many a times of late, we’re witnessing innumerable families getting split because of issues pertaining to ancestral property and other financial matters. The moment people set sight on money and other forms of property, they even go to the extent of forgetting brothers, sisters and even parents in the worst case! As a result, relationships get cut and there is a huge ruckus and fight within close family members and thus the entire family gets ruined! This is exactly what happened in the Mahabhaarata also. Just because of the greed on one kingdom called Hastinapura, two camps of brothers fight amongst each other to reign supreme, and ultimately this led to the complete destruction of the entire Kaurava clan altogether. However, after winning the war, were the Paandavas happily ruling the Hastinapura kingdom henceforth? The answer is again no! They had their own set of problems after that, and the trauma of losing all their brothers including Duryodhana started to haunt the Paandavas even more. Moreoever in the process, they had to kill their own relatives and their teacher too! These added to their woes and post-war trauma. Thus we can see here that the peace of mind is completely lost when we are entering into a fight! This is of course on a larger scale, but at our homes too, if we start fighting within our close family members and if it escalates beyond a point, it becomes a real traumatic experience for all the members in that family and it gets very difficult to get out of it, even after several years.

This is the reason why Vidura advises and tries to doze down this level of anger that is simmering between the two camps. The moment this anger breaches limits, just like how a river floods the whole town if banks are breached, it is going to end up in a destructive and a nasty war, which is going to drink the blood of thousands and thousands of people! In our daily lives too, every day we are fighting some kinds of wars, both in our personal and professional life, and also within ourselves! If we’re able to develop that practice of taking things calmly and with patience, it is going to solve innumerable amount of problems with ease! For a small instance, if a big fight brews between two close brothers, and if one of them has the guts to go up to the other and apologize whole-heartedly, half of the problem would be solved! Sadly but, are we doing this? Are we taking a conscuious step to take the lead to apologize for whatever is happening? If we look at many aspects of life closely, it is only our ego that triggers lot of tension and fights amongst people. By nature, no human being is bad! But it is only we ourseleves who make ourselves bad and we do not require an external enemy for this purpose. If we are somehow able to control our ego, we can actually solve many problems with ease. In a way we are trying to be more open and receptive to problems and can have the mindset to treat problems as challenges in life, and work progressively to overcome it!

So for today let us ponder over the extension of this particular important point and let us do accordingly! We shall wait till the next episode to witness Vidura’s next important point of conclusion. Stay tuned! 😊

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at Bharatidhasan Institute of Management (BIM) Trichy, India A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: