In the previous episode we had witnessed yet another important discussion wherein Vidura has clearly highlighted four important “pillars” that are extremely essential to have a long and a peaceful lifespan. All of us should strictly adhere these four pillars in our daily lives. Vidura listed them out as “Maardhavam” (Having a “Saathvic” or a calm temperament all through one’s life, irrespective of any sorts of challenges coming through), “Sarva bhoothaanaam anasuya” (Leading a life completely devoid of jealousy on others), “Kshamaa” (Having excemplary amount of patience at all situations) and finally “Druthihi” (Having the courage and the constant motivation to succeed in life). All these four pillars coupled with each other would make a person successful both in terms of leading a blemishness professional and a spiritual life. Thus it becomes a mandate for all of us to strictly adhere to this path that is charted out to us by Vidura.
Now moving on further, Vidura adds to the above point that if a person is able to regard his friend high and place him/her in a high stature, he too would be able to enjoy a long and a peaceful life. Vidura explains thus:
“Aayushyaanu budhaah praahuhu mithraanaam cha avimaananaa!!”
It might be of interest to understand as to why is Vidura repeatedly emphasising that our near and dear ones should also be happy along with us. We’ve seen a series of episodes before wherein, Vidura clearly explained how to take care of our near and dear ones in our life – Our family members, close friends, etc. Here too, Vidura is revoking the same near and dear ones to drive home the point that if we’ve to have a long and a peaceful life, we should ensure that our near and dear ones are highly regarded and and are highly placed in stature by us. But why is Vidura stressing on this point a lot?
There are two ways of looking at this – The first way is that, if we’re able to place our close people in a highly respected stature, we can be devoid of unwanted tantrums that they might play on us due to their jealousy. If only we’re at a high stature and if we’re starting to disregard and underestimate our other people, this is going to surely result in an ego clash and because of this ego clash, fights would happen, and because of this rivalry, the other people might keep waiting for a chance to pull us down. The moment they find an apt situation to pull us down, they would do so meticulously, thus ending our “successful” life. Meanwhile, knowing that there’s a bitter rivalry going on between us and others around us, we would also start to be “extra careful” in whatever we do and say. This is where we would lose our peace of mind. We would have this tension everytime brewing within us and we would not know when we would come under attack from whom! Hence we would start having that constant fear within us and this is where we start loosing our lifespan slowly. The moment we’re gripped in fear, we start loosing our physical healthy state, which directly results in reduction of lifespan.
The other way of looking at this point of Vidura is that, if we look after our near and dear ones in a highly dignified and a respected way, if at all we would face some issues in our life in future, we would always have people to bank upon, and this would give us more courage to face any tough situation in life. The moment we realize that we are having the support and the back-up of people around us, the more courageous we would become to face challenging situations in life with ease! This is where we can use our friends and people around us to our strength – If we’re able to maintain good relations with people around us, by honouring them and respecting them with a good stature, we can always bank upon them for help at crucial times.
This is where King Dhirdiraashtra is again loosing it out – He’s not able to take care of his brother’s family and this is going to backfire at him very badly. Thus Vidura indirectly warns King Dhirdiraashtra about the imminent danger that is brewing up very quickly. So for today let us ponder over this very important point and try to see where and how we can implement this in our regular lives. We shall extend this discussion further in tomorrow’s episode and would move on from there subsequently. Stay tuned! 🙂