Episode # 304 – “Don’t share everything with everyone in this world!” – Vidura’s key advice!!!


In the previous episode we had witnessed the extension of Vidura’s point on unity amongst our close members of our family and friends! Vidura stresses on the point that if we take care of our near and dear ones today, they would take care of us tomorrow if there’s a dire need from our side. If we’ve to go through a tough situation in our life, we can always bank on the support of our near and dear ones during those times. Else on the contrary, there is always this possibility that they would turn out to be our worst enemies during our tough times.

Hence we should be very careful here. Just because we are of a good social and a personal stature, we should never talk ill or behave in a rude manner towards others. In other words, we should never underestimate others by abusing them or taking them for granted, just because we are in a position today to dictate terms. We should always remember that life cannot be taken as a permanent entity. We are always undergoing some change or the other every passing day and suddenly there can be a phenomenal change in our life situation wherein the other person might take up complete control over us in the near future! If that is going to happen, we should realize that we are going to be taken to task heavily without mercy! This is exactly what is happening to King Dhirdiraashtra and his son Duryodhana. They fail to realize that life is susceptible to changes and are not aware of the dire consequences of their arrogant behavior towards the Paandavas. This is where Vidura is trying to step in every time and create this awareness in the mind of King Dhirdiraashtra.

Now moving on further, Vidura highlights this point in an even better way, but in a different context. He now says that even while we have good relationships with our near and dear ones or with our partners in business, we need to draw the limit in terms of sharing some critical things with them. For instance we would see sometimes that even within the family, we might share a close relationship with few people and eventually we would tend to share close and intimate happenings of our life with them. However tomorrow if by any chance, there is a slight misunderstanding or a miscommunication between our close family members, what would happen? They might use this misunderstanding as an opportunity to blurt out all our intimate secrets that we had shared with them previously in public and eventually it would damage our reputation as a human being amidst the society!

Hence we should be double careful at this point. Of course we need to take care of our near and dear ones, but to what extent? This is an important question that needs to be addressed by all of us in our daily life. Just because someone is getting close to us, it doesn’t mean that we should get carried away! We should be able to draw the line and share only whatever is needed to be shared with them. If we happen to cross the line, we should be prepared to get insulted when the going is not good with that person. In some cases there might be a possibility of blackmailing too! For instance if we’re getting closer to some third party and we’re sharing our secret business deals or money matters with that person, there is always this probability that this person might use all this information to blackmail us and extract all our money to his advantage! This is happening quite frequently nowadays and we should be extremely careful in sharing any sorts of information with anyone.

Thus through this point, Vidura tries to convey the message that it is important for us to establish a good relationship with our near and dear ones and take care of them, but only to the extent of its feasibility. We should be very careful not to get carried away with the relationship too much as it might backfire at any point in the near future. Especially if the relationship is business or money oriented, we need to be extremely careful about what we communicate to the other person! Thus it is important that we care for our near and dear ones, but we should be careful with our dealings with them on a day to day basis. We should ensure that they are in good terms with us at every time.

So for today let us ponder over this important advice from Vidura and we shall wait till the next episode to witness the next point! Stay tuned! 🙂

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at Bharatidhasan Institute of Management (BIM) Trichy, India A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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