In the previous episode we had witnessed yet another continued point on why should we treat all our near and dear ones with equal love and care. Here Vidura makes an emotional appeal to King Dhirdiraashtra that the Paandavas are none other than his own brother’s children and it is his fundamental duty to take care of them properly. Instead, King Dhirdiraashtra is allowing his sons to inflict the maximum amount of torture and unease to the Paandavas, finally culminating in their exile for so many years. Still Duryodhana is not satisfied and his selfish attitude is leading the family to a fully blown crisis of all sorts! It is all because of King Dhirdiraashtra’s step-motherly treatment towards the Paandavas and denying them their fundamental rights in the Hastinapura kingdom.
This kind of a phenomenon is not only restricted to the Mahabharata, but is also applicable to many of today’s families too. The problem starts when people start having the notion that we need to be happy somehow by hook or crook, by destroying the happiness of others around us. This is where we start ditching others, playing mind-games with them so as to demoralize people, etc. By doing all this, we should remember always that the happiness we derive from this is going to be short-lived. There might always be a situation in the future that we would be a target for others whom we had pulled down earlier. Hence we should always make sure that we do not try pulling down others for our success in life and this section of the Vidura Neeti explains this message very clearly.
Now moving on further, Vidura is poking King Dhirdiraashtra further with a new dimension called “Age”. He says to King Dhirdiraashtra that his behavior, attitude and actions are not behest of his age. Vidura says thus:
“Evam lokhe yashah praaptham bhavishasi naraadipa!
Vriddhena hithvayaa kaaryam putraanaam taatha shaasanam!!”
Here Vidura laments and blasts King Dhirdiraashtra together by saying thus, “Oh King Dhirdiraashtra! You’re an aged and an experience person. Don’t you know that you need to act according to your age? For this age, you should clearly know which is good and which is bad and act accordingly! But what are you doing here? Your actions show that you’re such an immature person with zero knowledge on “Dharma”. Apart from me, you’ve listened to the advice of Sanjaya, Bhagawan Krishna himself, Bhishma, etc. Inspite of listening to all these people and if your “Puthra Vaatsalya” is going to blind your eyes completely, then what is the point in listening to all of us? It just simply means that you’re not matured for your age! Hence King Dhirdiraashtra! Please realize your immaturity and do the needful. The entire kingdom is looking upon you as its mascot, and in return to this respect, what are you doing here? You’re just trying to ambitiously push Duryodhana as your successor, although knowing that he is an embodiment of all “Adharmas” put together. If such is the case, how do you expect your kingdom and your people to prosper tomorrow? Isn’t it a great injustice you’re doing to your kingdom? Isn’t this a clear-cut case of lack of maturity for your age? Oh King Dhirdiraashtra! Please think about this seriously!”
Saying thus, Vidura lambasts King Dhirdiraashtra for his sheer lack of maturity in taking the right decisions at the right time and to back up the right people at the right time. This is the problem with us too, many a times. Due to lack of maturity for our age, we land up into hell lot of problems with our foolish actions. Starting from our family life, we tend to shout over our husband or wife for small things in life, and little do we know and understand that this shouting and passing bad remarks about the other person only ruins the relationship and subsequently ends in separation or divorce. This is the problem today in many households. Just because one has to establish his/her superiority over the other, we go to any extent to doubt the other person’s actions, words, etc. constantly keep finding faults in whatever they do every day, blowing these small shortcomings into huge issues and finally abuse the other person with whatever words that come in our mouth! For all those readers who are reading today’s episode, I place a humble request in front of all of you – Please try and introspect as to why do we face so many problems in today’s life. If we do this conscious analysis within ourselves, majority of those problems would be because of our immaturity and foolishness at some points in time! Hence the message from today’s episode is that, we should slowly try to cut down our foolish activities by using our discriminatory power to lend a thought before doing any action or before talking anything to anyone. Once we make this sincere effort, I’m sure we would be able to find solutions to most of our problems that we face today.
It is also important that whenever we talk with others, we need to deploy certain amount of maturity. We should know exactly how to talk with whom! This awareness is extremely important and we need to watch our words very carefully. If we’re using some harmful words while talking, it can really affect the other person very badly and the entire conversation and relationship goes into a mess! Most importantly if we’re using abusive language towards someone, it clearly shows our immaturity and inability to handle things in our life. Thus we should be extremely careful with our words and language that we use while talking with people.
So for today, let us ponder over these important points and we shall wait till tomorrow’s episode to witness the next important point. Stay tuned! 🙂