Episode # 293 – “Being calm & composed during turbulent times – Key to success!” Vidura’s advice!!!

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In the previous episode we had witnessed an important extension of Vidura’s point highlighting that real and sustained victory in life comes only through relentless hard work, patience, perseverance and consistent performance. If we “shout and scream” our way through or make unnecessary noises to our way of victory over someone or something, it is going to be unsustainable and ultimately going to lead to losing people from our vicinity and long-lasting failure in whatever task that we do! We should always realize that fighting, huffing and puffing with our near and dear ones is never going to yield us any positive results. Rather, constant fighting only leads people to lose interest on us and thus ultimately leaving us once and forever. This is an important point that Vidura is stressing repeatedly to King Dhirdiraashtra wherein he warns that Duryodhana is earning the wrath of his Paandava brothers just for his selfishness to rule Hastinapura kingdom all by himself. This is going to have long lasting negative impact, not only on Duryodhana’s life, but also on the lives of his ninety nine other brothers and the kingdom as a whole too!

Now moving on to the next point, Vidura explains that if suppose we are in a difficult situation in life we would get extremely nervous or tensed up. We would never relent from our tension until we come out of that problem or that difficult situation. However once we’re out of that problem and when we look back at it, we would start thinking “Oh! Did we get so much worked up for such a small thing in life? There are so many bigger aspects that are more important than this!”

I’m sure many of us would have had this kind of an experience in our lives. For instance if we are inside an aeroplane and that aeroplane passes through turbulent weather. What would happen? The aeroplane would start vibrating because of the extreme weather and during those times, we would get a touch nervous! However after few minutes when the plane crosses that particular area it would again become stable and smooth. At this point in time we would look back and think “Oh wow! That was just a small little period of turbulence. Is it for this small thing that I was getting so scared? Of course there are experienced pilots in the cockpit to handle such things efficiently! Why should I get scared?” Thus we can see here that when we are undergoing that small periods of problems, we would feel so tensed and worked up! However after we pass through that situation we would think why did we get so worked up for such a small thing in life! However the bigger question here is that, why aren’t we able to have this same mindset when we are undergoing the problem? For instance, why aren’t we able to keep ourselves calm when the aeroplane is undergoing turbulent weather?

This is where Vidura stresses on the point that we need to maintain our calm and composure at turbulent times, if we’ve to taste victory in whatever we do! Just because we get tensed, nervous and shout our way, nothing is going to change! Here Vidura is advising King Dhirdiraashtra thus, “Oh King! Ultimately while mending Duryodhana’s relentless pursuit of “Adharma”, what maximum can he do to you? He might abuse you or he might torture you or he might maximum kill you! So what? Atleast if you die by that, you would have achieved your goal of trying to mend your son’s ways and you can sleep peacefully henceforth! But now what’s happening? Are you able to sleep properly, given the present situation? Even now you’re not able to sleep well, isn’t it? So what’s the point in not taking a step forward to criticize and mend Duryodhana’s ways? This is a turbulent time and you’re getting carried away by the turbulence and trying to “escape” from your duty as a father! However if you can keep yourself calm and composed and try to take the responsibility to mend Duryodhana’s ways, you can save Hastinapura kingdom from going into the brink, isn’t it?”

Hence the message from today’s episode is that, at turbulent times, we need to keep calm and patient and try to execute our duties as sincerely as possible. Just because of some difficult situation in our life, there can be no excuse to switch our path towards “Adharma”. Hence we need to develop these virtues in us and these would help us tide over any situation in life. So for today let us ponder over this important point and let us wait till the next episode for an enhanced discussion on this and to further move on to the next point. Stay tuned! 🙂

 

 

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at Amrita Vishwa Vidyapeetham in Kerala, India. A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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