Episode # 279 – “We’ve to be SELFISH when it comes to our Spiritual Development” – Vidura’s keynote message!!!


In the previous episode we had witnessed yet another important point of Vidura wherein he sends out a strong message that there’s no point in “passing on the buck” to others, if the fault is on our side. Rather than just continuing to point out the mistakes of others, why don’t we look and introspect ourselves to find out our mistakes? Why don’t we clean ourselves before trying to clean others? Why to induce an unnecessary “blame-game” rather than thinking of some constructive solutions to the issue in hand? These are some important questions that we need to ask within ourselves as we move on in life.

If we begin to look into what others are doing and to keep finding fault with what others do, we’re going to reach nowhere in life! It is like running a 100-meter race. While doing so, it is important for the contestant to focus fully in his running speed and the distance that is remaining to be covered, rather than turning his head side wards to look at who is running where! If the contestant is going to gaze at his competitors, it means that he is losing his focus and his concentration reduces, thereby bringing down his speed of running. Hence we’ve to be very careful here. If our mind is starting to waver here and there by looking at what others are doing, it simply means that we’ve lost our focus on our job at hand! Thus it is important that we look at our own self, realize our mistakes and keep moving on.

Moreover, if we’ve to keep finding faults in what others are doing, first of all we’ve to allocate lot of time for it. But sadly do we have time for all this, given our human lifespan is so short with just less than 100 years? Thus given the fact that we have very little time with us at our disposal, we need to use this time constructively for our spiritual upliftment. Many people have this habit – Even after coming into the line of spiritual development, we still look at others and keep comparing ourselves with them. We keep saying, “Oh! Look at this person – He/she’s unable to perform as many spiritual practices as I do! He/she is having huge problems in controlling the mind and involving himself/herself in spiritual practices!” If we start comparing ourselves with others around us, there is no point in performing spiritual practices at all and there’s no point in “proclaiming” oneself as an ardent devotee of Bhagawan! It is important that we look at ourselves in terms of the way we’re performing our routine spiritual practices. Let us make ourselves perfect first. Let us focus our search meticulously towards our Aatman (Soul) and let us try to strive towards achieving purity in terms of our soul. It is not required that we start bothering about others. Everybody will have their own means to find out ways to fall in line with spiritual development. This is not our duty to make everyone fall in line. If we try doing so, it simply implies that we’re wasting lot of time.

Thus it is important that with respect to spiritual development and searching for the ultimate truth of our “Aatman”, we should be selfish here – That is, we should focus primarily on our own self before assisting others, if at all it is required. Whereas, if it comes to other worldly aspects of life, we should remain selfless and strive to work for others. The demarcation should be understood clearly at this point and this is the main reason I’m stressing on this point again and again. When it comes to aspects pertaining to our body and other worldly affairs, we should be ready to lend a helping hand to others by making them comfortable. For instance, if we see people around us suffering to get three meals a day, we should readily help them in securing it. If we witness people struggling to get good clothes for themselves, owing to lack of money, we can of course help them in getting good and comfortable clothes. If we witness people struggling for shelter, we can obviously help them by accommodating them in some way. Thus for such worldly affairs, we need to be selfless in our attitude and service to mankind. However, when it comes to our own spiritual upliftment and to understand the ultimate truth about our Aatman, we should be totally selfish to the core! Our realization is primarily important, rather than the realization of the others’. There is no use of bothering about the souls of others. We’ve to first bother about our soul. So for today, let us ponder over this important point and do the needful!

Now there might be a question here – If this is the case, why is Vidura wasting his time in advising so much to King Dhirdiraashtra? Rather than Vidura looking for his own upliftment of his Aatman, why is he struggling so much for the Aatman of King Dhirdiraashtra? We shall answer this important question in the next episode! Stay tuned! 🙂

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at Bharatidhasan Institute of Management (BIM) Trichy, India A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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