Episode # 234 – “Never talk to a leader on “Dharma” if he is amidst people who follow “Adharma”! Vidura’s keynote advice!!!

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In the previous episode we had witnessed the continuation of Vidura’s important message on who can be an ideal messenger to Bhagawan or to a Guru (A Spiritual Master). In that way we discussed the last characteristic of an ideal messenger wherein Vidura had laid special emphasis on the “Communication” aspect! As a messenger, a person should communicate using the right words at the right place. One such epitome of a messenger in terms of communication and also in terms of all other attributes is Hanuman! We witnessed during our Ramayana project as to how Hanuman was such an impeccable person in terms of being a messenger to Bhagawan Rama and Mother Sita. Hanuman was so devoted that we even witnessed Bhagawan Rama’s heart melted and was reduced to tears of joy and happiness!

Now moving on further, Vidura is talking about a very very important point here – He says that if a king is talking with a group of people who he shouldn’t be talking with, and if we are somehow part of that group by chance, we should only try to come out of that group and not to advise the king that he’s doing something wrong! Vidura explains thus,

“Naninhavam mantrahatastena gaccheth samprustha mantrasya kusangatasya!!

How applicable is this point to today’s scenario? If in an organization, we have to meet our supervisor or anybody who is above our level (Even Managing Director or whoever for that matter), we should know when and how to meet that person. If for instance, that person is sitting with someone or a group of people whom we do not share a good equation with, it is always better that we avoid going to meet that leader at this point in time. It is always better to approach that person either when he/she is alone or while amidst a group of people who would share a good equation with us.

Why is Vidura emphasizing such a point here? The main reason for such an emphasis is to highlight the point that if someone is amidst a wrong companionship, whatever “Dharma” we try to inculcate to that person would directly go to the drain! In other words, we have to know when to talk what and to whom! This is extremely important for us, both in terms of our corporate career as well as our personal life. If we’ve to talk to a person about something good, we need to first understand the situation in which the other person is at currently. Only after understanding that situation we should open our mouth and talk! Else what would happen? The entire group of “Adharma” would gun us down immediately and easily and our words of “Dharma” would never be heard by the person who has to hear!

This is exactly what happened to King Dhirdiraashtra as well! When the gambling game was going on, everybody around King Dhirdiraashtra were supporting the game and this made him get carried away by it. Amidst all these people was this one person called Vidura again, who tried to advise King Dhirdiraashtra against playing the infamous game. But did King Dhirdiraashtra listen to Vidura? NO! This is because when “Adharma” is at its peak, there is no point if one person alone emphasizes the “Dahrma”. The king is never going to listen to that! This is why Vidura is now advising King Dhirdiraashtra on the various aspects of “Dharma” when he is alone and when he is away from all those people like Duryodhana, Sahuni, Bhishma, etc.

Thus, just like how a sweet bird’s humming goes unheard of amidst the houling of a group of foxes, the precious words of “Dharma” would go unheard of, if they are uttered amidst people who are epitomes of “Adharma”. Thus the message from this episode is that, if in an organization we’ve to talk to a leader or anybody who is at the helm of affairs, we should always know the right time to approach them. If that person is amidst people who might negate our points of view and who might make us unheard, we should never try to barge inside and make our presence felt. Rather, it is better for us to wait until those people disperse off, and subsequently we can go and talk to that person. This would make more sense, rather than entering into unwanted fights, conflicts and arguments with people!

So for today let us introspect on this important point of selective talking and we shall wait till the next episode to witness more of Vidura’s advice to King Dhirdiraashtra and also for all of us! Stay tuned! 🙂

 

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at Amrita Vishwa Vidyapeetham in Kerala, India. A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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