In the previous episode we witnessed yet another important message from Vidura, through Dattathreya’s words, illustrating the point that we should somehow control our instincts to avoid a situation wherein we get provoked by someone unwantedly and we shout back at them. We should exactly know when to talk and when to observe silence! Thus it is always better to avoid those situations wherein we tend to burst out with our words and the best way to avoid such situations wherein a fight is becoming inevitable is to quickly move out of that place completely! If we do so, our energy is preserved carefully within us, and most importantly we do not accumulate unwanted sins in us!
To continue and add a few more points to this above discussion, we should also understand that there is no use of being a “chatter-box” and keep talking all the time. If we do so, the world will brand us as an “empty vessel”, as per the old English proverb – “Empty vessels make the maximum noise!” Thus we should learn to control our tongue and we should talk only when it is required. We should also remember the fact that the world would respect us only if we talk lesser and lesser. Whereas, if we keep talking something or the other with everyone around, we would waste precious time and this time could be used effectively in focusing on Bhagawan within us! Many a times we spend lot of time in gossiping about others in their absence! This is the first thing that we should avoid. We should never talk ill about others especially in their absence. This habit of unwanted gossiping lays the foundation of what we call “Organizaional Politics” in modern-day management. In other words, when we’re within a company, we spend lot of time in talking ill about our colleagues, our supervisor, etc. and this starts spreading as a “bad word of mouth” very quickly amongst many other people within the organization. At some stage, the person whom we’re gossiping about, comes to know that we’re talking about him/her and thus the problem begins. Unwanted politics start happening and finally the workplace becomes so messy that we lose our peace of mind while we perform our organizational duties.
Whereas, if we reduce our unwanted talking and gossiping about others, we would have more time to focus on improving our quality of work and also to introspect within ourselves with regards to our shortcomings and weaknesses. We should remember always that everybody in this world would definitely have some positives and some negatives too. Nobody can be a perfect or an ideal human being in this world! So rather than focusing only on pinpointing others’ negatives everytime, why don’t we spend that time creatively on working on our own negatives and converting them into positives? This would not only be beneficial for us as individuals, but also for the family that we’re part of, but also for the organization with which we work as well!
Thus we should always understand that whenever the situation demands us to maintain silence, we should always rise up to the occasion and maintain silence. By this, I’m not saying that we shouldn’t talk! We should definitely do so, when the situation demands – But in a way that others wouldn’t feel offended by our words. Our words should be in such a manner that others should want to listen more and more! People should come to us and say that they loved listening to us, rather than making them say that they were waiting for us to stop talking!
Thus the strong message from the past couple of episodes is that, we should try to control our tongue at all occasions. We should be in a position to quickly move away from the place where someone is trying to irritate and provoke us unwantedly. If we stay there for a while, we would rather get tempted to give a mouthful back to that person, which is extremely undesirable. Moreover, it is always better to remain silent when some controversial issues take place – Both within the family as well as within our workplace. If we try and poke our nose unnecessarily into sensitive issues, we would only end up flaring up the issue and blow it out of proportions! If we start gossiping about others in their absence especially, it would lead to unnecessary politics and our relationships would get spoilt because of it!
So for today, let us introspect once again on this extremely important point. I’m stressing on this point a lot because of the only reason that too much of talking is the root cause of many problems in the society today. If we were able to control our tongue in a proper way, the world would definitely become a better place to live in! It is not only me who is giving so much of importance to this point. It is Vidura too who is emphasizing this point with innumerable slokas. This is because King Dhirdiraashtra and Duryodhana are also tangled into the problem mainly because they failed to control their tongue. Duryodhana became the biggest crook in the world only because he did not realize that what he was talking was nonsense and is totally against the will of “Dharma”. He went on to insult and abuse the Paandavas in whatever way possible. He used his tongue to pronounce their thirteen-year exile. He used his tongue to utter innumerable lies to defame the Paandavas in many ways! Hence from all this, we should learn that talking is an art and we need to use it constructively when it is required!
We shall wait till the next episode to explore more of Vidura’s explanation on this point! Stay tuned! 🙂