Episode # 177 – “Maintaining silence & calmness at crucial times is the secret of one’s success!” Vidura’s important message!!!


In the previous episode we had witnessed yet another important message from Vidura as he invokes the episode of Dattaathreya to highlight his message to King Dhirdiraashtra. He tries to convey that if we scold someone for no fault of theirs, all of their wrongdoings and sins (“Paapa”) get transferred to us, and all our good deeds (“Punya”) gets transferred to them! Hence we need to be very careful here – Already through the course of our everyday life we’re accumulating so much of sins and we should be careful not to deliberately “acquire” more sins by scolding someone unduly. Here is where we need to have a control over our natural instincts and we should remind ourselves with this important point when such situations arise.

Hence we need to realize this point in our everyday life. But are we conscious about it? Many a times we are not! This is because the “Paapa” and “Punya” accounts are intangible in nature! In other words, these accounts cannot be seen or felt with our sense organs. Whereas if we consider the other types of tangible things, we can definitely see with our eyes and thus we tend to believe them. For instance, accounts with respect to money can be seen with our naked eyes and hence we’re very careful with money matters. Whereas, the “Paapa” and “Punya” accounts are intangible in nature and we’re unable to see them with our eyes. Hence we sometimes refuse to believe that such things exist in this world! If however the “Paapa” and “Punya” accounts were tangible in nature just like money, everybody would come into the “Punya” route and would all be excellent in their approach towards life. None of us would ever go near “Paapa” or sins! But unfortunately this doesn’t happen in life! 🙂 There’s someone invisible sitting above us, who’s maintaining all these accounts and because of His invisibility, we’re refusing to accept this truth! The moment we start believing firmly over the fact that our “Aathman” is more significant than our “Deham” (Physical Body), then we would automatically start believing those facts that we’re not able to witness with our naked eye! Just because I’m unable to see something, it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist. For instance, there are thousands of viruses and bacteria that we cannot see with our naked eye. However, there are so many diseases that are caused by them. Yet, how do we believe that these invisible viruses are the cause of these many diseases today? It is because the doctor tells us with a firm contention that this disease is because of a viral infection and we tend to believe the words of the doctor! Similarly when our great Maharishis and Mahatmas (Gurus) explain that there are invisible “Paapa” and “Punya” accounts that keep accumulating without our knowledge and feelings, we should believe in their words and act accordingly! This is extremely important and if we do not have the fear for “Paapa” or sins, we would start indulging in any sort of crime so easily! Hence we need to be very careful not to fall into this trap!

Thus Dattathreya explains “Aakroshtaaram nirdahati sukrutham chaashya vindathi!” This means that if a person is unduly scolding and abusing someone, this is going to backfire at him very badly at some point in time!

“Paraschedhena abhividyedha bhaanair brusham!

Sutheekshnair anala arka deeptaihi sa vidyamaanoh pradhidahya maanaha!!” 

Dattathreya continues further thus, “If we get scolded and abused by someone continuously, and if we maintain our serenity and calmness, it means that we’re escaping a great deal of sin or wrongdoing! If we’re rather, gearing up for an even bigger fight than the other person, and there is going to be a tough competition as to who is going to acquire more sins than whom!” 🙂 Moreover, this is never going to end too – If a fight commences in a small way with a verbal argument, there are huge possibilities that this small verbal dual would blow out of proportions very quickly to transform itself into physical attacks, throwing abuses on each other, etc. However if we quickly move out of that place, the fight would abruptly come to an end wherein the other person would even lose interest to scold us!

If we take the example of the popular game of cricket, who can be considered as a good batsman? Can a person who hits the ball to the boundary everytime be considered as a good batsman? Especially in the “Test” format, a batsman who knows to “leave” the ball that comes outside the off-stump and some sharp bouncers aimed at his head is considered to be the best batsman. To become a good batsman in Test cricket, lot of temperament and patience is required. If the batsman goes fishing for the ball outside the off stump, he is definitely going to be caught behind or at the slips and hence, he should exactly know which balls should he score runs and which balls to leave! Similarly in life, we also need to understand very clearly as to which are the times we should talk back and which are those times that we should keep silent and avoid talking unnecessarily. If we keep answering all of what people keep asking us, it doesn’t mean that we are brilliant or intelligent. A really brilliant person would always exhibit silence at critical times, exhibit calmness and eventually win over the situation easily! This is why we always keep telling, “Silence is the secret for success!”

So for today, let us ponder over this important message of when to talk and when to observe silence! It is always better to avoid those situations wherein we tend to burst out with our words and the best way to avoid such situations wherein a fight is becoming inevitable is to quickly move out of that place completely! If we do so, our energy is preserved carefully within us, and most importantly we do not accumulate unwanted sins in us! We shall wait till the next episode to explore more on this regard! Stay tuned! 🙂

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at International School of Business & Media, Pune, India. A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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