Episode # 172 – “How can you easily forget the love & respect that the Paandavas have for you?” An emotional Vidura asks King Dhirdiraashtra!!!


In the previous episode we had witnessed a beautiful explanation of the modern day English proverb – “Prevention is better than cure!” Here, Vidura explains to us that we’ve to take precautionary steps (along the path of Dharma) in this birth of ours, so as to lead a peaceful and a satisfied life with Bhagawan at Vaikunta at the end of this birth. Not everyone of us can get that opportunity – Just like how we prepare ourselves well in advance for an important examination or for a job interview, we need to prepare well in advance to attain “Moksha”. Vidura used an analogy of ants to explain this important point – Just like how ants in the summer months would collect its food requirements and store it up for the winter months, we should also anticipate our future requirements and prepare ourlselves now.

Now moving on thus, Vidura is going to explain yet another important point here – He says to King Dhirdiraashtra, “Oh King! Just recollect your good olden days a little bit! Go back a few years in your past. When these Pandavas were children, how much of love and respect did they show to you? After the death of your brother Paandu, these five children saw you as their father, philosopher and guide. Even today they have the same respect towards you. However what is your reciprocal to them? Just because they’re grown up now and are demanding for their rights, you’re forgetting the colourful and the lovely past with them and is up in arms against them! How can you become such a stone-hearted person by forgetting the love and affection that they’ve showered upon you in the past?”

This is a really emotional and a heart-touching request from Vidura to King Dhirdiraashtra. Here we’re witnessing that Vidura is trying his best to convince King Dhirdiraashtra to somehow mend his ways towards “Dharma”. Vidura advises him, slams him, pokes him, uses some emotional arguments, etc. to make him understand. Here we can see different types of communication channels that a person can use to convince people. These are exactly the ways and means that are employed in modern day management as part of “Business Communication”.

Now let us witness what Vidura has to say with respect to this emotional point:

“Jeeranam annam prashamsanthi bhaaryancha gatha yavvanaam!

Sooram vijitha sangraamam gathapaaram tapasvinam!!”

Here Vidura explains with several analogies to drive home this important point: he says, “Jeeranam annam prashamsanthi” – For instance, a person has fed us with tasty and nutritious food and we’ve consumed that food too with full satisfaction. After this food gets digested, can we forget the person who gave us the food? Can we deny the fact that this person had fed us the tasty food and can we disrespect him/her in any way? Shouldn’t we respect them for the help that they’ve done to us? Next up he says, “Bhaaryancha gatha yavvanaam” – In the similar lines, can we disrespect and leave our wife/husband just because his/her beauty is lost because of advancement in age? Whatever maybe the age and/or ailment, we would always care for our wife/husband, isn’t? Similarly Vidura says, “Sooram vijitha sangraamam” – If a person was once a very powerful person and had done a lot of help for us in the past and now that person has become aged and is suffering from ailments, can we forget that person and that help that he had rendered to us? Even today we respect those people who were freedom fighters and had given their lives as a sacrifice for our nation. Do we forget them just because they had passed away or because it is almost 70 years now after India gained independence? We never forget them isn’t it?

Thus what do we see in all these above analogies? It is very clear that we should never forget the person who fed us nourishingly at a time of need. We should never forget our spouse just because they no longer look attractive because of age. We should never forget those people who were once powerful and had rendered some important help to us some day! Thus the message from this episode for all of us is that, we should never stop respecting those people who are near and dear to us at any instance and at any point in time. We should always remember their timely help and should be grateful for what they’ve done for us.

This is exactly what Vidura is trying to educate King Dhirdiraashtra. He emotionally asks King Dhirdiraashtra how can he forget the pure and innocent love and affection that the Pandavas shower over him and how can he behave in opportunistic manner to cheat and deny them their due rights. Vidura says with tears in his eyes, “Oh King Dhirdiraashtra! Just because of this kingdom called Hasthinaapura, you’ve gone to the extent of forgetting that pure and innocent love and affection from the Paandavas! They respect you as their own father and love you with all their pure heart! When they were children, you were the person, who fed them with food, isn’t it? Yuddhishtra has never forgotten all of that. How could you ever forget all this in just a jiffy? However given your wickedness, why didn’t Yuddhishtra fight against you? He could have done that easily. But he doesn’t do that only because of the respect and love that he has for you! Please do not forget that! You’re underestimating his love and affection towards you!

Hence for today, let us introspect upon this important point of Vidura. Let us not forget the help that was done by others to us at crucial times and let us be grateful to them for our entire lifetime! We shall wait till the next episode to witness more of Vidura’s messages! Stay tuned! 🙂

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at International School of Business & Media, Pune, India. A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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