Episode # 57 – Men should not get carried away by the luring of strangers – Vidura’s caution!!!


In the previous episode we had witnessed the significance given to women in our “Sanaathana Dharma” in detail. We’ve seen even in the Mahabhaarata text as well as to how an entire clan meets destruction just because of insulting a woman in public. However in this context of “Vidura Neeti” Vidura tries to drive home an important point as to why a woman’s impeccable character mixed with patience is the very fundamental base for a family. He has explained one important aspect to which women should not fall prey to – Feeling jealous over others’ possessions. Vidura explains that the woman should be able to analyze the strengths and weaknesses of her family and act accordingly. If the woman starts desiring for unwanted things that might be out of reach, the entire family would bear the brunt of it. Hence women need to be careful about this.

Now moving on further, just like Vidura explained what should a woman avoid, there is a similar explanation as to what a man should avoid as well! What is that? Vidura explains thus:

“Lokah poojitha poojakaha!”

Here Vidura cautions men – If we happen to appreciate, praise and follow someone who is not known to us, it might lead us to a great danger! This is extremely common amongst men even in the modern day – Because more than women, it is men who go behind “company” of others! This is exactly what Vidura says here – If men start going behind those who are unknown to them just because someone is following them for something, it would lead to an extremely dangerous situation.

In the present day we can see many men being lured into business deals by unknown persons. Just by reading some information somewhere or hearing something from somebody, many people go behind them and invest their hard-earned money into a business deal by trusting an unknown person. After few months or years, many a times this “lucrative” business deal turns out to be a fake one! Unfortunately by that time they realize that this deal is fake, they would have lost a huge sum of money! It is at this point that the woman of the family should step up and advise her husband not to get carried away by such gimmicks. Of course, it is important that men should listen to his woman’s advice and act accordingly and not falling into unwanted traps.

Moreover, many men would tend to find “company” with other men for various other purposes too. Many people go behind smoking and drinking and would have a separate company of people for that purpose. Eventually as the number of such meetings increase, the trust and the bond between those “friends” would increase as well. It might be considered a good outlet for men to hang around with their friends in that way, but what is important is that, when we choose such people, we need to be extra careful in doing so. We need to check their background, their family, etc. before getting closer to them. We should always have this question lingering in our mind when some strangers come in contact with us – “Why at all should this person have friendship with us? What is he going to gain by doing so? Would there be any repercussions for this in my life?” Thus the point here is that, it is not wrong to have a company of friends, but those friends should be within a known circle and trustable people. Else what might happen is that, if the person is a stranger, he might use us to extract some vital information about our job, business, etc. that might be detrimental for us and eventually there is a high possibility that those people might misuse the critical information to pull us down. We can see innumerable such instances in today’s society and that is why Vidura is warning us! Hence, men need to be extremely careful in this regard.

Also, one of the biggest challenges faced by men who are in extremely high and sensitive job positions is that of a “honey trap”. The opponents or competitors might tend to lure “sensitive” and “vulnerable” men by capturing their attention with a woman, so as to extract critical information from them. We can see this happening with those men who are in high ranks of the Army, Navy, etc. wherein the opponent country’s spies might get into such acts to extract potential loopholes within!

Hence from all these instances that happen in the modern day, it is important that men should be extremely careful not to get carried away by the luring of strangers. Men should realize that if some stranger is talking “sweetly” with them, that person is laying a huge trap! It is critical that men shouldn’t fall into this trap knowingly or unknowingly. For this, men should develop that discriminating power to differentiate which is good and which is bad for them as well as for their family’s reputation. This is exactly what Vidura is trying to explain here as well.

Hence today is the day where men should ponder over the above-explained point carefully. The previous episode was for women to ponder over and this episode is for men! 🙂 Moving on further, Vidura is going to explain two important “Thorns” that are to be picked and thrown away by all of us from our lives. What are those thorns? Let us wait till the next episode to find out! 🙂 Stay tuned! 🙂

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at International School of Business & Media, Pune, India. A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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