Episode # 38 – “A friend in need is a friend indeed” – Vidura explains!!!


In the previous episode we had witnessed couple of important attributes of a “Mooda” or a “Fool” as explained by Vidura to King Dhirdhiraashtra. At the end of the previous sloka, we saw Vidura explaining to King Dhirdhiraashtra that he is acting against the interest of Lord Krishna, thus evoking his anger. This should serve as a warning to King Dhirdhiraashtra, however he failed to realize Vidura’s precious words of advice. However, that doesn’t mean that we should ignore such important advice given by Vidura. We shall follow each and every word of Vidura for the betterment of our day-to-day lives.

Now moving on further, Vidura explains the next set of attributes of a “Mooda”. Let us try and understand them today.

“Akaamaan kaamayathi yah kaamayaanam parithvajeth balavancha yodhveshti!!”

 Here Vidura explains to King Dhirdhiraashtra that a person who is trying to pick up a fight with another person who is supposedly stronger than him, is one of the biggest “Mooda” in this world! In fact, we can have an enmity with a person who is of equal or lesser strength than us. For instance, if I’ve to pick up a fight with a person who is a three-time gold medalist in kick boxing, what would happen to me? Even before I think of making my first move, that fellow would blow me away within seconds! 🙂 Hence, if I have to create enmity with such people, I’ll have to spend all my life in fear – What if this person would come and attack me anytime? This is why we need to be careful. We should make sure that we do not create an enmity with those people who are stronger than us physically, financially and politically.

I’m particularly using the terms “financially” and “politically” because we see in the modern day situation in our country that in the name of “democracy”, our freedom of speech is being curbed by some unwanted political elements. If we utter something against any political bigwig, immediately there would be goons from that party to come and bash us out! Hence if we’ve to take them on, it is better to do so in the proper channel, or at the best, it is better always to keep quiet! Rather, it is better to develop friendship with that person, so as to avoid any further controversies in future.

“Amithram kuruthe mithram mithram dveshti hinasthicha!!”

 Now Vidura explains the significance of “friendship” here – If a person gets into a friendship with the wrong company, he is none other than a “Mooda”. We can see innumerable examples all around us. Even in the Mahaabhaarata we can see the example of Karna. Why was Karna killed in the war, although he was an extremely good person by heart? It was only because of his wrong companionship with Duryodhana. Moreover, Karna met a fateful end because he failed to do his duty as a friend to Duryodhana – When Draupathi, (Wife of Paandavas) was insulted publicly in the forum of the Hasthinaapura palace by Duryodhana and co., Karna should have ideally stopped him from doing so. But rather what did he do? He joined hands with Duryodhana and ended up insulting Draupathi more and more! This led to her fury and hurt Lord Krishna’s heart a lot. Thus at a time when Karna was fighting a fierce battle against Arjuna, Lord Krishna had to eventually take Arjuna’s side only because of Karna’s wrong companionship. Many might argue that Lord Krishna should have taken the side of Karna for his noble character, but because of the above-mentioned reason, Lord Krishna had no other option but to desert Karna in the battlefield when it was crucially required.

Thus from the above example, we can understand the significance of friendship. As the old proverb goes, “A friend in need is a friend indeed!” friendship plays a crucial role in everybody’s lives. The point here is that, friendship should be true in such a way that a person should be able to criticize his friend when he/she is deviating from the path of “Dharma”. If that is not happening and if this person supports all the wrongdoings of his friend, just on the pretext of “not breaking the friendship”, it is a big blunder!

Hence for today let us think about this important attribute and introspect within us. Are we following the “Dharma” of friendship in our day-to-day life? We shall talk about friendship a bit more in the next episode as we move on! Stay tuned! 🙂


Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at International School of Business & Media, Pune, India. A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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