Episode # 35 – The “Art of Effective Communication” as explained by Vidura!!!

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In the previous episode we were amidst an important discussion on the importance of effective communication. We witnessed some real-time application of Vidura’s explanations in the modern day corporate scenario wherein organizations are stressing heavily on this particular attribute. In today’s episode we shall continue the discussion by looking into each and every characteristic of effective communication that Vidura is explaining to King Dhirdhiraashtra. For this, let us recollect the sloka that we mentioned in the previous episode.

“Pravrutha vaak chithra katha uuhavaan prathi bhaavaan aashukgranthasya vakthaacha yasya panditha ucchyathe!!”

Here Vidura clearly explains how our communication should be:

“Pravrutha vaak” – Wherever we go or whichever context we have to talk about, we need to present our ideas very clearly and flawlessly. Irrespective of who is the audience – Maybe rich, elite or poor, if we are confident that we are talking nothing other than the “Dharma”, we should go ahead and talk about it clearly without hesitation and fear. When would we get that “boldness” to talk in front of an audience? It is only when we know that whatever we talk is “Dharma”, isn’t it? Hence, if we speak the “Dharma”, why and for whom should we fear? Hence, our talking should be confident enough and bold, without an iota of fear in our mind. Here the readers should note one important thing – When I say that we should talk boldly without fear, I’m not saying that we should talk with arrogance! Here we’ve to be smart enough to differentiate the two situations correctly – Talking without fear and talking with arrogance. Of course, when I say that we should not fear anybody, it doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t respect the other person. Hence we need to be very careful here. We should talk with confidence, but not with arrogance. If the audience is a highly learned lot of people we should respect them, but not fear them! When should we fear? We should fear only if we feel that we are deviating from the path of “Dharma”! This is an extremely important point to be noted by all our readers!

Chithra-Katha” – Now moving on to the next point, while we communicate something important, we should make sure that it is communicated in a way that people would be able to listen to it keenly. Some of us have the habit of “Blunt talking” or “Talking on the face”. It might be good at some point in time, but many a times, if we’re going to talk bluntly and on the face, people are going to take that as an insult! Especially when we’ve to point out something wrong that is happening, we need to articulate it in such a way that people are motivated enough to change and mend their ways. Rather, if we are scolding them bluntly for their mistakes, many a times people are going to fire at us back by asking counter questions such as, “Who are you to point out this to me?” or “First look at yourself before pinpointing others!”, etc. Why to get into such unwanted and embarrassing situations? Hence we should understand that whenever we tend to point out mistakes or to convey a negative message, we should always convey the thing in a way that the other person is “convinced” with our argument.

Uuhavaan” – This means that when we present a particular topic, we should structure our points and arguments in such a way that the critical message of the topic is conveyed well to the audience. This also means that we should not deviate into unwanted topics while delivering the lecture. How relevant is this point in today’s context too! Many a times we would have listened to orators talking unwanted things, citing irrelevant examples while talking about a particular topic. Many a times, we even end up making some controversial statements that might trigger unwanted unrest and restlessness amongst the audience. All these things should be strictly avoided. Thus we should stick to our topic of discussion and not deviate much. Of course we shall cite examples to substantiate our points, but those examples and allied statements should be completely relevant to our topic of discussion. For this, we need to do our homework. Adequate preparation is extremely necessary so as to deliver a good and a convincing speech amongst a set of audience.

Many a times we’ve heard that people practice their speech by standing in front of a mirror. Why do we do that? It is only to check if we have that required confidence, correct body language and proper eye contact while we deliver our talk. Hence the message from this point is that we need to make sure that we do not deviate from the topic much and try as much as possible to stick to our topic of discussion while we speak.

“Prathi bhaavaan – Here Vidura explains that while delivering a talk, the orator should also possess an excellent imaginative capability. Only if we have the imagination power, will we be able to articulate the right words, the right examples at the right context of the talk. Moreover, in order to keep the audience awake, we need to induce some humor while talking. Of course, care should be taken that this humor should not be intended at hurting the feelings and sentiments of another person or another religion or nationality or race. The humor should be in such a way that everybody should be able to enjoy it at the same time. For this, we need an excellent imaginative power. Moreover, we would have also heard our ex President of India, Dr. A. P. J. Abdul Kalam advising us as to “dream big” in life! It doesn’t mean that we should sit in one corner of the room and keep daydreaming! Our ex president is advising us to “dream according to our capabilities”, so as to use our capabilities in the right direction and achieve our goal! Hence, dreaming is also important, but daydreaming is wrong! 🙂

Thus with this, we come to an end of the various attributes of a “Panditha”! Hence for today let us spend some time and try to recollect all the attributes that Vidura has explained to us regarding who is a “Panditha”! Let us also make a special effort from today to try and implement those characteristics in our daily lives. From the next episode, Vidura is going to explain the different attributes of a “Moodaathma” (Fool). What are those attributes? Let’s stay tuned to find out! 🙂

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at Amrita Vishwa Vidyapeetham in Kerala, India. A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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