In the previous episode, we were at a crucial juncture wherein, Vidura is trying to emotionally influence King Dhirdiraashtra one last time and attempting to correct him to the path of “Dharma”. He puts up an important phrase as he begins and tries to create a hypothetical situation wherein Duryodhana is “assumed” to be dead! The moment King Dhirdiraashtra listens to this hypothetical phase that his son is “dead”, he loses himself and studders with fear and grief! He immediately looks at Vidura and requests him not to repeat that phrase again ever! This clearly shows how much of love and affection King Dhirdiraashtra has for his son.
Of course, I’m not saying that we should not have any love or affection towards our children or our family. Readers shouldn’t mistake the point here. Love and affection towards our family is of course very essential for a happy life. The problem comes when this love and affection “blinds” us from taking tough and important decisions for the betterment of our children in future. Just because we “love” our child, does it infer that we get along with him / her without asking any question when he /she does something wrong? Won’t it set a bad precedence to the child that he / she can take the words of parents for granted everytime? This is exactly what happened in the case of Duryodhana – King Dhirdiraashtra’s excessive love and affection towards his son Duryodhana led him to a situation wherein he couldn’t question anything whatever Duryodhana did! At one stage, Duryodhana started to take his father for granted and eventually led to a situation of arrogance wherein his father started fearing a huge backlash from his son if he opened his mouth!
This is what happens in many families today too! The point here is that, it is not wrong to have love and affection towards our children. However, if our children seem to walk down the wrong path, parents should stand up and criticize them and correct them to the path of “Dharma”. The important point here is that, parents should be able to draw the line between love and “excessive” love towards their children. If the love and affection turns excessive, children would start taking parents for granted and the result of it is for all of us to see from the case of King Dhirdiraashtra and Duryodhana.
Moving on, Vidura explains further that if a person passes away from this world, none of his / her family members, relatives, friends, parents, children, spouse, etc. are going to come alongside the person. All of them may come upto a certain point in the burial ground, but not any further! Eventually, only our “Paapa” (Sins) and “Punya” (Good deeds) are going to come along with us and these two would follow us for all the “n” number of births that we would be taking in this world again and again.
This is an extremely important message for all of us to ponder. In fact, we have had a detailed discussion on this topic during our Ramayana project and if our readers can recollect, this context comes at a point when Bhagawan Rama kills Shubaahu and lets Maareecha escape. During the journey from Ayodhya to Mithilapuri along with Sage Vishwaamitra, Bhagawan Rama and Lakshmana encounter the first threat in the form of the demoness “Thaataka” and subsequently her two sons Maareecha and Shubaahu. Of course, all of us know that Bhagawan Rama singlehandedly took on Thaataka and finished her off with a single arrow! Upon hearing the demise of their mother, Shubaahu and Maareecha come in front of Bhagawan Rama and one of them get killed! Bhagawan Rama’s arrow chases away Maareecha to the far-flunged ocean, several thousand kilometres away! Now the interesting question arises – Why did Bhagawan kill Shubahu and let Maareecha escape? In fact, if Bhagawan Rama would have killed Maareecha on that spot itself, the entire Ramayana would have been sealed there itself! Our readers might be aware that it was this same Maareecha who was instrumental in Ravana’s ploy of kidnapping Mother Sita from Panchavati, many years later. But why did Bhagawan Rama do this? There’s an interesting answer.
If we look at our “Karma” theory, there are two categories of “Karma” namely “Sanchita Karma” and “Praarabdha Karma”. The “Sanchita Karma” amounts to the truckloads of “Karma” that we have been doing over the past innumerable births that we’ve taken in this world so far. “Praarabha Karma” is just one load out of that huge truckload that we take in this birth and start experiencing the results of it. We do not know if we would be able to finish experiencing all of the aftereffects of our truckloads of “Sanchita Karma” in this birth itself! Thus, we also do not know how may births are still required to finish off all of this! Eventually in this birth too, we would be accumulating fresh “Karma” and what about that? All these “fresh Karma” would again go into the truckload of “Sanchita Karma”, and this vicious cycle of birth and death continues!
It is only at this point that we go and stand in front of Bhagawan, seeking surrender! The moment we surrender to Bhagawan’s feet, he takes care of all of our “Karma” and liberates us from it! How does he liberate us from all our Karma? Let’s wait to continue this discussion in the next episode! Stay tuned! 😊