Episode # 188 – “Don’t get carried away by those aspects that aren’t in your control!” – Vidura’s important advice!!!


In the previous episode we had witnessed the continuation of the discussion on why do people enter into a depression so easily in the modern day. One important part of yesterday’s discussion was that, the moment we start cribbing even for small things in life, we start losing our peace of mind and thus we enter into a state of depression very easily. Hence the message is that, we should learn to make ourself satisfied with what we have and try to lead a happy life with whatever exists in our hands. If we start to desire for things that aren’t there in our hands and if we do not end up getting what we desire, we start cribbing and getting frustrated with ourself and on others. Thus, the lesser our expectations from others and the world, the more peace of mind we get. Hence it is extremely important to always have a check on our desires and we should ensure that it doesn’t go beyond control for us to repent later on with depression and other diseases.

Now moving on further, Vidura adds on to his above point on the mental aspect of human beings and explains another important point pertaining to this subject. He now says that certain things in our life would inevitably keep happening again and again and we do not have any control over it. So what’s the use of cribbing and getting frustrated on these certain things that repeatedly keep happening in our life? Vidura explains thus:

“Punarnaro mriyate jaayate cha – Punarnaro heeyate vardhate cha!

Punarnaro yaachathee yaachate cha – Punarnaraha shothachi shotthache cha!!”

Here Vidura explains about those things that are beyond our control in our life. He starts with Punarnaro mriyate jaayate cha”This means that our birth and death are not in our control. Both of them keep happening and hence there’s no point in feeling extremely happy about birth and extremely sad and sorrowful about death! Both are inevitable not only for human beings, but also for all living beings in this world! If a person has to take birth, irrespective of whomsoever he/she might be, this person has to die some day or the other. There is no escape from this!

Next up, Vidura explains Punarnaro heeyate vardhate cha!”Here Vidura explains the next point that a human being grows in size and/or contract in size as we progress in age! This is also not in our control. We can see this in our every day life too – After taking birth during the initial years, the child would grow in size and height. But after the age of say 23-24, the growing stops and the height stabilises. However, after a certain age – Say beyond 55-60 years, our body starts to shrink due to various reasons and we gradually start getting weaker. After 65-70 years of age, we get weaker still and get susceptible to the attack of various diseases that would further deteriorate our health. This is a cycle and it keeps happening to every human being in this world! Hence instead of feeling sad about it, we should take this in the positive way that we’re burning all our “Karma” with all these sufferings, and move on!

Next, Vidura explains an important point here – Punarnaro yaachathee yaachate cha!”Here he says that a human being is both going to be a rich guy as well as a beggar at some point in life! During our childhood days, we were literally like a beggar, awaiting the care of our parents and our close family circles for all our necessities in life, including food, shelter, education, etc. This is because we didn’t have an income for our own self to support ourself. Later on of course, after we complete our graduation we go for jobs and start earning money. This is the time wherein we’re able to sustain ourself with the income that we get and this is the time when we feel that we’re rich with many luxuries (as per each of our financial capacities). Post this, when we retire from our work and as we get older, we need to depend on our children for our survival and even to take care of our own health! Thus we again transform into a beggar in another way because ultimately we depend on someone else for our survival, isn’t it? Hence, all these things are also not in our control and there’s no point in worrying about all this!

Finally Vidura says, Punarnaraha shothachi shotthache cha!”Here Vidura explains our every day thought process that keeps on changing – Some days we might be happy and some days we might be sad with mixed emotions. It all depends on our moods and emotions on that particular day – One good event that happens that particular day might make us extremely happy and satisfied and similarly one sad event if happens any day, can make us sad and doomed for that whole day! Hence, these moods and emotions keep changing too and these aren’t in our hands every time as well!

Hence by explaining thus, Vidura advises King Dhirdiraashtra, “Oh King! Are you going to keep worrying for those things that are constantly going to change over time? What’s the use of doing that? You’re under the perception that you can cheat anybody and everybody for some momentous happiness and easily get away! Please change this crooked mindset of yours! Please focus your mind on “Dharma”! Please do not get carried away by these temporary and momentous pleasures and do not pave the way for mass destruction. The ball is in your court now!”

Saying thus, Vidura again tries his best to mend King Dhirdiraashtra’s ways. The message from this episode for all of us is very simple – Never get carried away by those things that aren’t in our hands and never feel sad or happy about these kinds of things! Let us focus on those things that we have a control on and let us invoke Bhagawan’s blessings for those things to happen successfully! We shall wait till tomorrow’s episode to witness the next important message from Vidura! Stay tuned! 🙂

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at International School of Business & Media, Pune, India. A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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