In the previous episode we had witnessed yet another important message from Vidura, this time with regards to some important characteristics of a true friend. As the old adage in English goes – A friend in need is a friend indeed, Vidura also explains on similar lines that we should choose our close aides or friends very carefully. There might be innumerable people whom we come across every passing day. However, many of them might be opportunistic in nature in some way or the other, or they would mingle with us for fulfilling some personal agenda of theirs by using us in some way. We need to be extremely careful not to fall into this trap. This is where we again need to use our sixth sense called “Discrimination”. Before we could establish friendship with someone, we should analyze the person for his/her behavior, actions and words and then make a decision to open ourselves up to that person. Through the sloka that we discussed yesterday, Vidura clearly indicates that we should only choose people who are balanced in their state of mind, those who have a complete control over their senses and most importantly those who are devoid of any expectations from us for their timely help! In other words, true friends are totally selfless in their approach towards us and are always ready to lend a helping hand and a shoulder to cry upon, during our critical times!
Saying thus, Vidura pokes King Dhirdiraashtra with a small pause here. The message is very clear – How many such true friends does King Dhirdiraashtra have in his palace around him? Vidura thus explains, “Oh King Dhirdiraashtra! Please reflect upon your condition now – There are innumerable people around you in your courtroom every day but do you think they’re true friends or advisors for you? They enjoy all the comforts, luxuries, good wealth, food, etc. in the name of you, and finally what is the output that they provide you with? The answer is Zero! All of these people are selfish in nature and they’re only interested in their luxurious living and survival. They neither care for you nor for your Hastinaapura Kingdom! Sadly you’re not realizing this fact and you’re getting carried away by their whims and fancies! Hence please understand that all people around you are eating the food from your house and are thinking of dethroning you as soon as possible! They have tremendous amounts of expectations from you that you would fulfil all their desires and their personal agenda. However, if you get into a problem, nobody is going to come to your rescue! Oh King! Thus please understand that such friendship with expectations would never sustain in the long run! The earlier you realize this, the better it is for you!”
Lashing out thus, Vidura continues to explain to King Dhirdiraashtra the next important message. Vidura explains thus:
“Akasmaathyeva kupyanti praseedhantyani mitthathaha!!”
Vidura now continues his above point by again trying to educate King Dhirdiraashtra thus, “Oh King! Such unstable people (whom you have as sons and friends) are never dependable in nature – You would never know when they would be happy, when they would get ferocious, when they would take vengeance against you, etc. Hence please do not go behind such people!”
Vidura continues by saying thus, “Oh King Dhirdiraashtra! I understand that whatever I’m telling currently is not pleasing you in any manner. I know that what I say is irritating you! However please listen to me carefully. You’re undergoing a state of mental depression with all what is going around you currently. Hence rather than going behind the false guidance of people like Sahuni, etc. have faith in Dharma and have faith in whatever I tell you. Your first step now is to come out of your mental depression!”
“Santaapaath brashyate roopam! Santaapaath brashyate bhalam!”
Now Vidura explains the consequences of undergoing mental depression. This is extremely important to all of us since in today’s world we’re exposed to innumerable disturbances in innumerable ways – Family, profession, society, etc. Hence let us listen carefully to this now – Vidura explains here that those people who undergo extreme mental depression slowly start losing their physical attractiveness and beauty. Those people who undergo extreme depression also start losing their strength – Both Physical as well as Mental strength. They start losing their confidence and will power (“Vairaagya”)! In addition to all this, those who suffer from mental depression start getting all kinds of diseases very easily!
Thus in a nutshell, this disease called “Mental Depression” is the main door that opens up for all other diseases to enter into our body!
Hence Vidura advises thus, “Oh King Dhirdiraashtra! Please understand this above fact! Don’t give room for any more mental depression. Enough is enough. Please do not lose out on your confidence! Please understand that you are in a powerful position called “King”. You’re not realizing your capabilities and power that you possess!” Saying thus, Vidura tries to motivate King Dhirdiraashtra here so that he makes an effort to come out of his depressed state of mind.
Hence for today let us realize that mental depression is a very dangerous disease that we can get. To avoid this, we should constantly keep cheering ourself up with positive thoughts, prayers towards Bhagawan and boosting up our confidence every now and then. We should realize that if we happen to slip into depression mode, it becomes very difficult for us to come out of it and moreover, we end up paving the way for other diseases to come and attack us! Hence let us give this message a serious thought and do the needful immediately! We shall wait till the next episode to witness the continuation of this important discussion. Stay tuned! 🙂