Episode # 129 – Always look at the “positives” in everybody and everything – Vidura’s important advice!!!

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In the previous episode we had witnessed Vidura’s yet another important explanation on leaders being approachable to their subjects. Thus the message from yesterday’s episode was that, leaders in order to be successful and revered, should first develop the quality of being open to all of their people – Be it employees of an organization or cadres of a political party, or team members of a sports team, etc. The moment this person is approachable, trust starts building and if the leader backs it up with his swift actions, he is going to be revered and successful.

Now moving on further, Vidura explains today that we should always look at the positives from everybody around us. Even if someone is scolding or talking ill about us, we should look for the positives in that and try to correct ourselves. Thus on an overview, Vidura explains here that even if something that we come across in life might be bad or detrimental, we should analyze that thing or the situation to extract the goodness or the positives from it.

For instance if we have to obtain “Saalagrama” of Bhagawan Vishnu – This “Saalagrama” can be obtained from the fast flowing Ghantaki river at Nepal. This “Saalagrama” is nothing but a variety of stone that is considered to be Bhagawan Vishnu himself. Now if we’ve to obtain this “Saalagrama” stone, we would see in the banks of the Ghantaki river that there would be huge piles of stones washed and stored aside on the banks. Not all of those stones would be the “Saalagrama”. We need to wade through the stones and find out which exactly is the “Saalagrama” stone and take it.

Extending this discussion further, it is a global rule that a precious item would always be amidst innumerable unwanted items surrounding it. Again for instance, how do we obtain precious metals like iron, gold or silver? In the modern science of Chemistry, we talk about how these metals are extracted from “Ores” that contain these precious metals in them. Normally these metals would not exist as independent elements. They always exist in the form of a “compound” and we need to “separate” the precious metal from the compound solution. This is why we have several processes involved in the “extraction” of the metal like for instance, fractional distillation, heating the metal ore to over 1000 degree celsius, etc.

Thus from this we can understand that even precious metals require a strenuous process of “extracting” them from their ores. In fact, if we take the example of diamond, which is one of the most precious stones that we see today, even this diamond is nothing but carbon. In Chemistry we describe this phenomenon as “Allotropy”. Allotropes are nothing but different forms in which an element can exist in this earth. Not all elements that exist in this world has this ability of having allotropes. However, Carbon is one unique element that has the capability of having different allotropes. “Graphite” and “Diamond” are believed to be the two allotropic forms of carbon. This diamond that we see as a precious stone is nothing but carbon, and this is why if we heat diamond beyond a certain temperature, it reduces to ashes!

Thus, just because this diamond is nothing but ashes, do we neglect diamond altogether? Just because gold is amidst so many impurities, do we neglect the precious element called gold? Similarly, just because the truth or “Dharma” is bitter to digest, can we neglect it completely from our living? Mostly we would witness that the precious truth called “Dharma” would be amidst a beautiful storyline in our Sanaathana Dharma literature. It is we who has to explore them, do an in-depth analysis to find out the truth and thereby follow them in our lives.

This is exactly what Vidura is advising King Dhirdiraashtra here – He says thus: “Oh King! Please try to look into the good aspects in whatever others speak. Even if a mad person talks some rubbish, atleast one out of the thousand rubbishes that he talks might be good, isn’t it? We should always look for that one good message amidst all the junk!”

“Apyunmathaath pralapathaha baalaacha parijalpathaha!

Sarvataha saaramaadadyaath ashmabhya iva kaanchanam!!”

Thus from the above sloka, Vidura clearly explains that just like how precious metals like gold, silver, etc. is always found amidst innumerable unwanted other elements, precious messages of “Dharma” would always be present even in a mad person’s junk talk. Thus, irrespective of whoever talks whatever matter, we should always take the positives out of it. Thus we should develop the “Viveka-Gnyaana” to understand, differentiate between the good and the bad in whatever we see and listen to in everyday life. Irrespective of who talks what, we should be able to grasp the good messages from it.

Hence, the message is very clear here. So let us try to introspect this important message of Vidura and figure out ways how to implement them. We shall talk more about this in the next episode as we move on to the next point. Stay tuned! 🙂

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at Amrita Vishwa Vidyapeetham in Kerala, India. A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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