Episode # 126 – “Facial Expressions” & “Positive body language” extremely important for a leader – Vidura explains!!!

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In the previous episode we had witnessed Vidura’s important explanation on how people misuse their office for their personal gains. He is advising King Dhiridraashtra not to walk that dangerous path. In the modern day, we can see that the root of corruption starts from greed for power and money. People tend to misuse their office for performing illegal activities to earn “quick” and “more” money. However when the tide changes direction, they get caught. Sadly the reality today is that, these people who get caught like this, never even realize that they’re being caught for their wrongdoing and they still resort to the same mistake again and again! So it is important to realize that we should never misuse our office for any wrongdoing. This is against the Dharma and we should avoid such illicit activities.

Moving on further, Vidura continues his explanation thus:

“Chakshushaa manasaa vaachaa karmanaacha chathurvitham!

Prasaadayati yolokham tam lokaha anuppraseedathi!!” 

Here Vidura continues the discussion in an interesting dimension here – He explains that a king who exhibits his righteous path through his thinking, unconditional love towards his subjects, the way how he articulates his words and various welfare activities that he performs are regarded extremely high by the people of the kingdom. The entire country hails such a king as one of the greatest in history and his rule would be hailed as one of the brightest spots of the country.

For instance, in the present day all of us live amidst a family at home, surrounded by neighbours of the next door, next compound, same street, etc. In our surrounding area, we might know many people and in turn they would know us as well. If we walk on the street and come across someone known to us, do they stop and talk with us for 3-5 minutes with a pleasing smile or do they turn their back and walk away without even looking at our face? This is an important test for us here. If people come forward to talk with you with a pleasant face, it means that we are approachable to them and there is a good vibration around us that makes them come to us and talk. Moreover, if someone comes up to us to talk, he/she should feel happy about it and should feel that they could have spoken with us for some more time! Whereas if we are always with a glum face exhibiting anger everytime, who will come near and talk?

Hence Vidura advises thus, “Oh King Dhirdiraashtra! This is an extremely important ‘Raaja-Dharma’. You should have a pleasant facial appearance towards everybody, along with pleasant words. Only if you are pleasant in appearance will people approach you for anything. Whereas if you always exhibit a glum face like this everytime, people would feel scared to come near you for anything! You would be completely isolated. Your facial appearance should be in such a way that the people should be ready to talk with you or look at you for more and more time, rather than making them go away without even looking at you!”

We can see how much of emphasis Vidura is giving for what we call in the modern day as “Body Language” and “Facial Expressions”. This advice of Vidura is not only for leaders or kings or administrators, but for all of us in common. If we do not have an appealing and a pleasing facial expression, people would feel completely disconnected from us and would only try to move away from us. Thus the message from today’s episode is that we should have a pleasant appearance and people who come to us should feel that they could spend more and more time with us, rather than running away from our vicinity.

Moreover, even if people come to talk to us for a longer time, we should be able to restrict our talking with them for a limited time. In other words, we should make sure that we talk very less and directly to the point. While talking, we should try and avoid unwanted gossips about someone or something. This would only bring down our level of respect amongst the others.

Thus on the whole, how do we capture the attention of people in a pleasant way? It should be a combination of exhibiting a pleasant face with a smile, but at the same time we should also make sure that we do not keep talking a lot. We should talk straight to the point and stop with that! This is what would make the opponent feel that he/she could listen to more of our talking and spend more time with us. Thus we should talk only what is to be spoken. We should make sure that we talk less, but rich in content. We should always employ good and pleasing words.

Hence for today, let us realize these important aspects of human life. We shall elaborate more on the “talking” aspect in the upcoming episode. Stay tuned! 🙂

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at Amrita Vishwa Vidyapeetham in Kerala, India. A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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