Episode # 102 – The “Art of Giving” – Why should we inculcate this habit in us? Vidura’s important advice!!!


In the previous episode we had witnessed Vidura’s important and a mind-blowing explanation on what are those aspects that make up an excellent “Guru” or a teacher. In that, he had listed out a few important “do’s” and “don’ts” of a “Guru”. Some important points that we had witnessed yesterday were that, a teacher is one who doesn’t create or blow up small issues amongst students into something big, he’s a person who is devoid of jealousy or head-weight, he hides his financial weakness on inability from students and avoids illicit ways of going about things in real life. If a person is able to follow such things meticulously, he would be able to set a tremendous role model for his students to follow and thus eventually become a successful “Guru”.

Further to the above explanation, Vidura adds more points. Let us witness them one by one. Here he’s going to explain some important qualities that would prevent a person into falling trap of any kind of evil or danger that might come on the way.

“Mitham bhunkthe” – A person who eats less but sufficient food and not overeating – It should be remembered that we need to have sufficient food and a “balanced diet” that would satisfy our appetite as well as keep our mind rejuvenated and active. Only by taking proper food at the proper time we would be able to achieve this. However, on the pretext of “eating”, one should not end up “over-eating”! If we happen to eat more food than what is required, our mind starts becoming inactive and lazy. This is because, more amount of blood circulation is required to digest the excessive food in our stomach, and because of this, sufficient blood doesn’t reach the brain to make it remain in the active mode. It is for this reason that we feel sleepy after having a heavy breakfast or lunch or dinner. This is why our “Sanaathana Dharma” advises us to eat what is required but to avoid over-eating. How relevant is this in today’s scenario as well! Let us try and follow this meticulously from today!

“Samvibhascha aashruthebhyaya” – A person who has the courtesy to share his/her food with others while eating“Sharing” is one important character that all of us should inculcate in us as well as in our children. If we are not ready to give anything to anybody, what is the point in having so much of money or property or any kind of wealth? We should realize that whatever things we have with us in possession today, is not going to be ours forever. For instance, every single minute of our life we are inhaling oxygen and exhaling carbon dioxide. In other words, we are taking in some air and releasing some air outside. Can we argue by saying that I would only keep inhaling air and will never exhale anything outside? What will happen if we start doing this for few minutes? We’ll start feeling giddy and fall on the floor unconscious! 🙂 Hence we should focus on both earning money and donating it simultaneously. We should develop the “art of giving”. So rather than claiming ownership of whatever we have, if we are able to share a little of our money or food or any kind of property with those who are in need, it would be a great service and a help to our society and for building our nation. Of course I’m not saying that we should donate all of our property to others and go and start begging on the streets from tomorrow! 🙂 It’s our right to use the property of ours for satisfying our basic needs and save it for future. But apart from this, we need to develop a habit of saving some amount of money for helping the needy and make contributions for doing “Seva” or social activities.

“Mitham swapithi” – A person who sleeps less but sufficiently enough – I’ve discussed this already during the initial episodes of “Vidura Neeti”. This is where King Dhirdiraashtra is exactly suffering and Vidura “hits him where it hurts”. From this, the lesson that all of us should learn is that, when we go to bed every night, we should try to keep our mind devoid of worries and tension. If we’re able to do this successfully, we can get an undisturbed sleep for the stipulated period of time. Only if we have proper sleep, will our body be able to rejuvenate and refresh itself for the next day’s activities. Moreover, our sleep should be balanced between a particular time frame – A minimum of 6 hours – Between 10 PM to 5 AM. We should not sleep more or less than this! Let us slowly cultivate this habit and we shall witness a phenomenal change in our lifestyle as we progress.

Amitham karma kruthvaa – A person who has the capability to put more effort and to work more, but at the same time, sleeps very less – This is a continuation of the previous point. If we go to bed at 10 PM just because the time is 10 PM, we would never be able to sleep! We should work hard, get tired physically and mentally and then go to bed at 10 PM. If we’re able to do this, we would automatically get a sound sleep! If we look at the labourers who work in the agriculture, construction and other related domains, they would be able to get a sound sleep whereas we would not be able to! The reason behind it is that, the labourers perform extremely tough physical jobs, that tire out their bodies by the end of the day. With this tiredness they would easily go into the sound sleep mode. So the point here is that, we should make sure that we put in more effort and dedication in whatever we do during the day, so that we would be able to get a sound and a peaceful sleep during the night.

“Dadaathvamithreshvapi” – A person who helps others irrespective of being a friend or an enemy – This is the highest level of “Benevolence” that a person can have. If we are able to extend a helping hand to people without distinguishing them as friends or enemies, it is the best thing that we can do to the society and mankind. Thiruvalluvar explains this beautifully in his “Thirukkural” in Tamil,

“Innaar seidhaare orutthar – Avar naana nannayam seidhu vidal!!”

Here he explains that we need to do more help or good things to our enemies, than friends! Of course, it is a difficult task, but if executed well, the enemy would feel ashamed that he/she has done something bad for us! This would make that enemy feel guilty and automatically he/she would repent for the mistake.

Thus if the above characteristics are embodied in a person, he/she becomes devoid of any evil or danger that comes by in his/her life. We shall wait till the next episode to find out more such characteristics. Stay tuned! 🙂

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at International School of Business & Media, Pune, India. A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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