Episode # 100 – Ten different types of people to be avoided in our life – Vidura’s important advice!!!

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In the previous episode we had witnessed Vidura’s important explanation that we should consider human body as a city that is enclosed within nine different gates or entry/exit points! What are the nine-entry/exit points in our human body? We have two eyes, two ears, two nostrils, one mouth and our two excretory outlets. If we total these together, we would realize that we have nine gates in our body! Eventually we also saw a glimpse into the fundamental principle of Ayurveda wherein three important aspects namely “Vaatam”, “Pittam” and “Kapam” are primary to determine the health of a human being. If all these three elements are in balance, it can be concluded that a person is healthy, fit and fine. Problems start occurring only when there is an imbalance between one or two out of the three elements.

Now moving on further, in today’s episode we are going to witness Vidura’s explanation of ten important things in one sloka. What’s it about? What is Vidura going to talk about today? Let’s witness:

“Dasa dharmam na jaananthi dhridiraashtra nibo dadhaan!

Matthaha pramartha unmatthaha shraanthaha kruddhaha bhubukshitaha!

Tvaramaanascha lubdhascha bheetaha kaameecha te dasa!!”

Here Vidura is going to explain ten different types of people who do “Adharma”, and advises King Dhirdiraashtra to stay away from all of them. This is an important advice from Vidura and we should listen and try to implement this advice carefully in our life at every stage. Let us see the ten types of people we should avoid:

“Mattaha” – This implies those people who are obsessed with alcoholic drinks every time. Such people are bad companions and if we are around them, we would also be pulled into this menace. All of us know how severe a problem is “drinking” in today’s Indian society and I needn’t go deeper into this explanation.

Pramartha”This implies those people who lack concentration and focus in whatever they do, and those who make blunders in life due to the absence of dedication. At any point in time we should maintain our concentration, focus and dedication towards whatever tasks we undertake. Our mind should only be focused on the task in hand and not be allowed to deviate around. If we come across people who do not have this focus in them, it is better to avoid them completely.

Unmatthaha”This implies those people who are mentally unstable or mad people. Such people of course should be kept at a distance all the time.

Shraanthaha”Here, this implies those people who are always feeling sick and tired, especially when they’re expected to fulfill an important task or a responsibility. Some people have this habit – They would always project themselves to be sick and tired when they see an important work approaching them. For instance, if there are a few guests visiting our home, some people might be reluctant to have them. Hence they try to cite some sort of illness to escape from the extra work that would be incurred because of the guests’ visit. Such people who tend to escape from key responsibilities are to be avoided completely.

“Kruddhaha” A person who exhibits anger and frustration every time should definitely be avoided at any cost. This is because, we would never get that pleasant feeling when we talk with them. We never know when would they yell at us and for what reason! Hence it is better to avoid such people.

Bhubukshitaha”A person who always feels hungry should also be kept at a distance. Sometimes we might also come across such people today, who seems to be hungry all the time and eating something or the other every minute. We should avoid such people primarily for two reasons – One is, if they feel hungry all the time, how much of food would we be able to provide them? Our kitchen would become empty in no time! 🙂 Secondly and more importantly, those people who eat a lot tend to be lazy. Their mind does not have the capability to work in full capacity and hence they tend to sleep and laze around all the time, thus shunning responsibility and work. This is why we say that we should eat, but never over-eat!! Hence, such people are to be avoided.

“Tvaramaanascha” A person who is always nervous, tensed and over quick should also be kept at bay. In our day-to-day life, we would be able to see many such people today because of the changing lifestyle conditions. Some people would always be on toes, running here and there, tensed and doing tasks quickly but making a mess out of them! Such people are extremely dangerous to be with, because we might also fall into this trap if we are with them! Hence such people should be avoided.

Lubdhascha”Here’s a person who does not want to help others or share any of his possessions with anybody. Such people are termed to be “misers” and these misers are to be avoided completely because we do not stand to benefit in anyway out of them!

Bheetaha”A person who is always under a constant fear or threat should also be kept at bay. If we are associated with such people, we might also get into the “fear” mode and eventually we would lose our confidence level in whatever we do. We should realize that we should not fear for anything in life. Rather, we should strive boldly to face whatever problems come our way.

Kaamee”A person who is full of lust and desire should also be kept aside. Lust and desire are those that would eventually pull a person to shambles and hence we need to be extremely careful here. We’ve of course discussed about this many times in the past and here Vidura is reminding us one more time to be careful.

Thus Vidura has listed down ten different types of people from whom we should keep ourselves away. For today let us introspect within ourselves and our companion groups to check who all would fall under these ten categories. J If we find some of our friends, family members, etc. falling into these ten categories, it is better that we try and avoid them as much as we can.

Thus with this explanation, we come to the end of Vidura’s explanation on different kinds of “Dharma” and “Adharma” and different kinds of people to be in relationship with and people to avoid. From tomorrow’s episode we are going to witness an entirely new dimension of Vidura’s explanation wherein he commences a detailed accord on what are the important qualities of a teacher (“Guru”). Stay tuned for the important episode tomorrow! 🙂

Published by Dr. Jeayaram

Holds a PhD in Management Psychology from Universite Paris Saclay, Paris, France. Also an Asst. Professor of Human Resources management at Amrita Vishwa Vidyapeetham in Kerala, India. A professional South Indian classical musician (singer) performing concerts. Through this blog, I'm trying to bring out the richness of Indian culture & values and I request your support and feedbacks in making this humble effort a success!!

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