In the previous episode we had witnessed an important discussion on “Work-life Balance” and how do we strive to attain it with Vidura’s valuable and priceless advice. In today’s episode we are going to witness the next sloka wherein Vidura explains the six important elements that we should avoid and win over in our life, so as to be successful and happy.We might all know these six elements already, yet in the context of the ongoing discussion, it becomes important for us to recollect and remember.
“Shannaaam aathmani nithyaanaam aishwaryamyaha adhi gacchathi!!”
Here Vidura explains the six important aspects that we should win over, so as to lead a peaceful and a satisfied life – “Kaama”, “Krodha”, “Lobha”, “Moha”, “Mada” and “Maatsarya”. I’m keeping this discussion a bit short because all of us might be aware of these six.
“Kaama” means “Desire”. In the current day we might be having innumerable desires running in our minds. If we’ve to give into each and every desire of ours, leading a happy life is never going to be possible. Hence as we grow up and mature, we should slowly and consciously start cutting down on our desires and expectations. The lesser and lesser our desires, the more and more we attain peace of mind!
“Krodha” – Excessive desires lead us to “Krodha”, which means “Anger” and “Frustration”. If we expect something or desire upon something and unfortunately if we aren’t able to attain or fulfill our expectations or desires, we eventually get into the “Anger” mode! We tend to “forcibly” satisfy our desire by exhibiting anger! Thus, if we are able to control of desires, anger would automatically be under control.
“Lobha”– Excessive desires also lead to “Craving” or “Obsessiveness”, which is otherwise referred to as “Lobha”. Sometimes we tend to “crave” for a favorite food of ours. This is because of the excessive desire for tasting that food item. Thus if we let the desire grow within us, over a period of time it transforms itself into “craving” and “obsessive” character. Hence we need to again focus on controlling our desire and expectation.
“Moha” – This is nothing but excessive “dizziness” or in other words, “being in a completely imaginative world”! Many a times we would see people “lost” in their own world! They would be completely engrossed in their own thoughts and would not be in sink with what is happening on the ground! Such a behavior is dangerous and we should try and avoid it. In other words, we should be aware of what is happening around us all the time!
“Mada” – This is nothing but unwanted “pride” or “thinking too much about oneself”. Why does this happen? The main reason is overconfidence. When does overconfidence arise? If we’re able to accomplish something that nobody or very few in this world have accomplished, we start feeling on the top of the world! Eventually with many people starting to appreciate us for our great accomplishment, these appreciations start to get over into our heads and transforms into “pride” and “overconfidence”. This “overconfidence” is extremely dangerous and can pull us down at any moment! We should of course have the requisite “confidence” in us to face life as it comes, but we should realize that this confidence should not transform into “overconfidence” and pride. There is a thin line of difference between “confidence” and “overconfidence”. We should realize this difference and act accordingly! Thus, we should also strive to control the characteristic called “Madam”.
“Maatsarya” – What if others achieve something that we couldn’t achieve? Immediately we start feeling “jealous” about those people who have accomplished! This “jealousy” is what is called “Maatsarya” and this should be avoided! If someone has achieved something great, we should know that he/she has achieved it only with his/her hard work and dedicated efforts! There is nothing to feel bad about it. Rather, if we’re aiming for such a success, we should put our heads down, work towards it and achieve it, instead of feeling jealous of others and cribbing about it!
Many of us in the modern day tend to waste lot of time in this – We keep unwantedly cribbing about other people and eventually waste lot of productive time of ours! Rather, if we focus on ourselves and try to cut down on all these unwanted six elements, we can achieve immense success in our life. When we tend to crib about someone next time, we should take a pause and think – “What am I going to gain by cribbing about this person? Is he/she going to help us in completing the tasks that I need to complete within this time?” If we start thinking progressively in this manner, half of our time can be saved and instead put to use productively.
So for today, let us introspect on all these six elements – “Kaama”, “Krodha”, “Lobha”, “Moha”, “Mada” and “Maatsarya”. Let us join hands together and make a conscious effort to start cutting down on these six elements one by one. By doing so, I’m sure that success would be ours for the taking! Let us strive together in this aspect and witness the huge change that is going to take place in this world in the positive direction! We shall wait till the next episode to see Vidura’s explanation on the next six elements! Stay tuned! 🙂