In the previous episode, we had witnessed Sanjaya getting ready to leave back to Hastinapura to convey the message given by Yudishtra to King Dhritarashtra. Yudishtra’s stance is very clear, as we’ve seen earlier. Finally as Sanjaya leaves, Yudishtra holds his hands with great respect and bids farewell to him by saying that even though he might differ in opinions, his respect towards Sanjaya is always intact. Bhagawan Krishna too appreciates Yudishtra’s gesture and sends Sanjaya off by providing His divine “Anugraha”. We also have a very important lesson to learn here, as we’ve discussed yesterday. Even though we might be having differences of opinion with others, should we move on with it or should we entirely cut off our relationship with them? This is where many people go wrong with regards to relationships as well. We shall discuss this point further as we move on from here.
As Yudishtra displays this gesture, Sanjaya too is extremely happy as he leaves for Hastinaupra. This is the gross difference between Yudishtra and Duryodhana here too – Yudishtra knows how to move on with people by respecting them on a personal basis. However, Duryodhana is only interested in encouraging more and more gaps in relationships as we’ve seen multiple times. It is not only with Yudishtra and Co. is Duryodhana exhibiting such behavior. Even with his own people like Bhishmachaarya, Guru Dhronachaarya, etc. Duryodhana behaves the same way. We’ve seen instances wherein Duryodhana publicly abuses Bhishmachaarya to be a coward, just because he has a difference in opinion with Duryodhana. Similarly, when Guru Dhronachaarya once appeals to give up on the war and settle things amicably with Yudishtra and Co., Duryodhana fumes in anger and abuses him straightaway, without even having the basic courtesy that Dhronachaarya is his own Guru (Teacher)! This is the mistake many of us make as well! Just because someone tells something, we keep building gaps with that person and finally this leads to the complete breakdown of the relationship itself! We see this happening in many families – Differences of opinion between parents and children, husband and wife, between two brothers or two sisters and between friends as well! Now the question here is why such things happen very frequently today!
The major reason behind such behavior today is that, with time we’ve developed so much intolerance towards others! We’ve lost patience listening to what people say. We’re only interested in imposing our thoughts and opinions on others and little do we care to understand that the others too have their own opinions and thought processes similar to ours! Moreover, if someone always talks in favour of whatever we say, we’re very happy and would go with them. However, the moment someone differs with us in opinions and thoughts, we would immediately try and shut them out! The process doesn’t end there – The intolerance goes on and on to such an extent that we entirely brand people with differences in opinions as our “enemies”! We completely stop talking with them, or we even go to the extent of abusing and insulting them in public. This is exactly what Duryodhana is doing to his people here. Hence, we’ve to think which is more important – Satisfying our ego or maintaining our relationships? Thus, by going through this episode, we should think and introspect within ourselves and find out ways to increase our patience and tolerance levels. We should be patient enough to hear out the other person’s different perspective about things. By doing so, we achieve two things – One is, this is an opportunity for us to have a holistic approach towards the problem or issue at hand, as all of us have human limitations. Our brain has only a limited capability to think and make decisions. However, if we join hands with multiple people as a team and work towards an issue at hand, we might get multiple solutions to solve the issue, isn’t it? Let us think about it!
Moreover, if we’re displaying patience to listen to others’ views, it raises the level of confidence and trust that others will have towards us. By listening to them, we are communicating a subtle message to them that they can express themselves freely to us without any prejudice or bias. Hence, we get a true picture of whatever is happening. Thus, in either ways, developing tolerance and patience to listen to others and respect their opinions is a good practice, both personally and professionally, and this is exactly what Yudishtra is doing here to Sanjaya as well! Hence for today, let us ponder over this important point and let us try and implement this slowly and steadily in our lives as well! We shall wait till the next episode to witness what happened at Hastinapura after the arrival of Sanjaya! Stay tuned! 🙂
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